My daughter is 15 years old and 171 cm tall. She used to weigh around 66 kg. She wasn't skinny, but…

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My daughter is 15 years old and 171 cm tall. She used to weigh around 66 kg. She wasn't skinny, but not overweight either. She's tried to lose weight a few times before, even skipping meals for 3-4 days and hiding it. Then she'd go back to eating normally. This summer, after camp, she came back looking thin, and that's when it all started. Now she eats a little cottage cheese in the morning and a tiny bit of buckwheat for lunch, and that's it. She currently weighs 51 kg, meaning she's lost 15 kg. She's so thin, just skin and bones, with stick-like arms and legs. Talking to her doesn't help; she says, "I'll eat what I want." When I threaten her, she says she'll eat, but then she doesn't. I'm at work all day and can't monitor her meals. Besides, I think she'd lie about eating anyway. Where should I go – a doctor, a psychologist, a psychiatrist?
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MARGARITA
My daughter weighed 39 kg at 163 cm in 11th grade. It was really hard. She took a year to recover.
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Ulyana
Probably both. We had a friend who even intentionally induced vomiting, which is a very worrying symptom.
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Alesya
I had anorexia at 17, I weighed only 39kg at 167cm tall. My mother took me to a neurologist and a psychiatrist, but it was a joke, they didn't listen to me or hear me, I didn't trust them at all. If you're looking for a specialist, search for a good one, maybe based on reviews or by paying. Honestly, I didn't need a doctor, I needed empathy and understanding.
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tanya
Your daughter has an eating disorder. She needs professional help. It's not just about being thin; she's losing muscle mass, which is very dangerous for her health as a woman. This affects all her hormones and can lead to menstrual problems. She could cut out buckwheat, but it's essential she continues to eat protein like meat/fish.
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MARGARITA
Alesya Spot on about understanding. As soon as I started communicating more with my daughter, her eating habits improved.
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morozka
See a psychiatrist ASAP. Seriously, right away. Don't listen to her. My husband's older daughter was in a psychiatric hospital for 5 months. They cured her, and it never happened again.
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Vinitskaya yana
She might need to see a psychiatrist. They might suggest admitting her to a psychiatric hospital if she doesn't start eating normally.
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Irina
I didn't need doctors. I was also trying to lose weight at 14, even though my mom explained that I wouldn't be able to slim down my wide hips. But it was hard for me to accept my new body type. I walked around like a skeleton and got tired of it. Then I went back to normal.
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Anita
My [child's name/height] weighs 52 kg, but eats normally. Maybe she needs to see a therapist.
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Alesya
Alesya Mmmhmm. I had thoughts like, 'I want to take up as little space as possible. I want to disappear. Why do I feel so bad and hurt inside when everything on the outside seems fine?' It was also a way to distract myself from the inner pain with a challenge like, 'How long can I go without eating?' 🤷️ Maybe if my mom had put me in a psychiatric hospital like they suggest here, I would have seen it as another betrayal.
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Ruzanna
Psychiatrist. And don't delay.
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Liana
See a psychiatrist. I went off the rails like that at 15 and started losing weight from 101 lbs. I got down to 70 lbs. I was in intensive care, fed through a nasogastric tube. Now I don't understand what was going on in my head. Skinny and decided to lose weight 🙄
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MARGARITA
Alesya Yeah, the psychiatric hospital sounds scary. I talked with my daughter for about two months, and only after that did her eating gradually get better.
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Suhareva Olga
At the psychiatrist's, mine was in the same hospital ward as people with anorexia.
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