I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm just not cut out to be a parent. I'm barely managing wit…

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I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm just not cut out to be a parent. I'm barely managing with my youngest, all my energy goes into him—he's so energetic and naughty, not just restless, but in a really intense way 😅. I have work... And I have to drive my oldest places, wake him up, know where he needs to go, and control everything. He's independent and dependent at the same time. He gets around town fine, does his chores, wants to learn, and is responsible. But he won't do his homework, even with reminders—I have to stand over him. Plus, there's the renovation and house problems. And I just want to cry. I try my best, but the school keeps calling. I have no strength left, I'm spread too thin everywhere.
Вот такая история. Мы искали дом, смотрели с риелтором — всё понравилось. Смотрели вчера, а сегодня…
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Ruzanna
So, is there a dad involved?
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Dasha
Ruzanna The older one's father lives in another city, they talk on the phone once a month.
With the younger one, my husband of course helps, but he has work and stuff.
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Mariya Pasynkova
Who told you that you have to do everything? Do you want to be a workhorse? I suggest learning to: let some things go, delegate others, and rest.
You have no idea what a well-rested mom is capable of)))
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Ruzanna
Ruzanna I understand. Sending you patience and strength, everything will work out for sure ♥️
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Dasha
Ruzanna Thank you so much.
It's just hard to believe right now
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Ruzanna
Ruzanna There are moments when you just want to jump out the window or have a drink! 😁
But it passes))) it will definitely pass
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Dasha
Mariya Pasynkova Getting enough sleep isn't really my thing right now.
My youngest is breastfed and sleeps with me.
I know how to delegate and let things go, but if I miss something, it always feels like things go wrong.
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Dasha
My youngest also started daycare, but only until lunchtime for now.
Yes, it's like a breath of fresh air. I cried from relief.
And I'm struggling with my oldest here...
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Dasha
Ruzanna Thank you!
I'll keep believing and hoping :)
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Ruzanna
Ruzanna ♥️♥️♥️😁
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aleksandra
I understand you so well, dear 😔 My older one is in that tricky age, she's been driving me crazy for 2 years now. She gets 4/5s in school, but the hassle with her showing her personality is just… a lot. And the younger one is a hurricane. Sometimes I just want to hibernate until spring, but who'd let me 😂 So, we smile and wave, sending you patience 🙏🫂🙌❤️
Are you still breastfeeding? And how we easily transitioned from breastfeeding and the pacifier, I had even planned for it
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Elena
I always tell myself that kids grow up, someday they'll be grown and married 🤣 and their personalities won't be my problem anymore 🤣
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Dasha
aleksandra Still breastfeeding ((
He wakes up at night and screams his head off.
The older one is a handful, he doesn't even realize when he's being rude ( a very tough age

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Dasha
Yes, a private house. We're renovating it, but they still can't connect the electricity for us.
That damn company is dragging out the deadlines. And it turns out they can do this for years! (
Someone's been waiting over a year from a neighboring street – they even won a lawsuit, but it's useless.
"Twos" don't help, he's already got nothing but "twos"...
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Anastasiya
Did you sign a contract with Yantarenergo for the "protyazhka" service?
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aleksandra
aleksandra 🫂
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Dasha
aleksandra And how do I finish? Should I let her scream all night?
I'm kind of stuck on that...
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Dasha
aleksandra Their age... oh my.
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Dasha
Yes, the developer concluded, six months ago...
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Dasha
The electricity is right across the street, so you don't need to run any wires—just install the meter.
There are two streets like ours.
I understand it would have been faster to go through intermediaries, but that was before our time(
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aleksandra
aleksandra For now, switch to water, and make some compote or fruit drink.
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Dasha
aleksandra No, he won't drink anything like that at night...
He needs his breast, and to fiddle with the other one (
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Anastasiya
Yes, there was an office. You go in, they process all the documents, and the intermediary connects you the next day. That's how we did it, except my husband did the connecting because he's in that field.
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Elena
I feel so sorry for those poor girls too 🤣🤣🤣
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Dasha
🤣
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Elena
At least we'll be cool to our mothers-in-law 😂
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Dasha
🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Lidiya
Are you divorced?
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Anastasiya Vostryakova
I get it, I'm in the same boat right now 💩. It's just that my older one doesn't have school problems. My daughter struggles with both Russian and English, it's a dark forest for her. Even though she does everything and reads with me, she freezes at school and gets bad grades. The teacher picks on her, she cries, and it's a vicious cycle. The little one is either teething, having potty issues, or just being fussy. Sometimes I just want to jump out the window, but we live in a house 🤦️🤣
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nika
Sending you a big hug. You're a great mom to your kids, you're just so beat and exhausted right now ((
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aleksandra
aleksandra Then the only option is to endure it. From what you're describing, it's not going to be quick
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Lyudmila Mogireva
No one can handle this much, so many tasks, and you're alone. Hang in there!
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Dasha
nika 🤗
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Dasha
Anastasiya Vostryakova Oh
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Anastasiya
So it's the contractors who are doing it, not you. They have their favorites there.
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Dasha
App. Yes. I've heard about that. Oh well((
Thanks
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Kristina
aleksandra Yes, brace yourself for 2-3-5 days of chaos, and then bliss.
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