I need practical advice on how to wean my one-year-old from nighttime breastfeeding. I'm back to squ…

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I need practical advice on how to wean my one-year-old from nighttime breastfeeding. I'm back to square one. I don't want to stop breastfeeding completely yet, as I still have the option to nurse for another year, but this constant nighttime nursing... Ugh, if I don't let him, he screams for an hour or two, and neither my husband nor I can get him to sleep. During the day, he falls asleep fine without me in the stroller or if carried (by someone else). He won't take a pacifier, bottle, or sippy cup – NOTHING. And I can't keep sleeping like this. Today, from 4 to 7 AM, my husband carried a screaming Danya around the house; none of us slept, except for our middle child – he can sleep under any circumstances. I'm not ready to completely stop breastfeeding, especially considering my middle child, whom I had to wean at one year old (which was very easy; he took a bottle right away). I still want to nurse him until at least spring, but the nights, interrupted sleep, constant fussing next to me, and bitten breasts – it's just too much, I can't handle it mentally. So, I'm looking for advice specifically from experienced moms who managed to maintain breastfeeding during the day and stop it at night. Advice like 'just stop completely' is valid and a last resort, but I want to try to work through this first. Thanks!
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Svetlana Kovshova
There are no other options 😄 It'll hang around while you're breastfeeding.
Just hang in there then)
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Yana
Just move to another bed temporarily. Someone else should put the baby to sleep and watch them.
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Polina
Same situation... I'll be listening 😁 I've gotten so used to sleeping during breastfeeding at night that when I turn away from him, it's pure bliss 🤣 Even if it's just for 15 minutes...
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lena
Yana So, is your husband here? On another bed or in another room? Nastya, he's such a mama's boy, it's unbelievable. He always screams if I'm near him. He kisses me, hugs me, and snuggles up to me with his whole body when I hold him. Of all three, he's the most mine, but I'm so tired...
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lena
Polina So I'm sleeping too, but he's already big, he pushes under me, and if he's uncomfortable, he starts biting my breast, and this nursing for hours – my breast is done. Sometimes it's okay, but today I just couldn't anymore, so I gave him to my husband and left so no one would touch me
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Yana
Yana To another room. Yes, he'll cry the first week, less the second, then he'll get used to it. Bedtime goodbye ritual: Mom's going to take out the trash. That's it, Mom's gone, he needs to see that. And then you hide around the apartment))
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Ekaterina Petrova
You want to continue breastfeeding. It's specifically the night feedings that maintain your milk supply. You don't have to feed during the day. Why stop?
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lena
Ekaterina Petrova Well, if breastfeeding tapers off gradually, I'm open to it. From my experience with my older ones, milk stays for a long time even without night feedings. Night feedings are important when it's the only thing the baby eats.
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Lora
I breastfed two kids until they were two years old. And I don't know how to get rid of night feedings and keep the daytime ones. Night feedings always left last for me. But when I stopped feeding at night, it meant we were done with breastfeeding.

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Ekaterina Petrova
Ekaterina Petrova Let him sleep with dad, separately from you. Be prepared for some crying for a couple of nights.
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lena
Ekaterina Petrova I was gradually weaning my daughter, the night feeds were the last. I knew someone who had just weaned her night feeds first after her daughter turned one and was still feeding during the day. But I lost touch with her, so I couldn't ask how she managed it...
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lena
Lora Same with my daughter… a friend had the opposite experience, wanted to try… what if?
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Tamasyan Yuliya
I don't even know) I immediately got him used to both a pacifier and a bottle. I knew I'd struggle later, based on my friends' experiences. At night, we give him ready-made, dairy-free porridge in a bottle. This is if he's not getting enough from breastfeeding, hasn't eaten enough, or hasn't sucked enough.
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lena
You tape up your breasts with a bandage and that's it, no more milk, you say. A few days of crying and that's it.
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IRINA
Poor Varya
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lena
And I feel sorry for Danya, that's why I'm looking for a way to sleep and feed 🤣
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Tatyana K
Why are daytime feedings still a thing at one year old? With daytime feedings, my kids tend to wean very easily and first, leaving only feedings for naps and at night… With my older one, we struggled for a long time to stop nighttime feedings. My younger one is more relaxed about it; sometimes I can give her water, pick her up, and she falls asleep. But it doesn't work every time yet.
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lena
Tatyana K Comparing my daughter and son, I realize it's best to breastfeed until 2 years old, or at least 1.5 years. Since my kids are close in age, I've been breastfeeding for almost three years with a small break, and honestly, I'm tired of interrupted sleep. It's not breastfeeding itself that bothers me, but my poor sleep at my age 🤣. I'm looking for a compromise, otherwise my nervous system will fail, and my youngest will switch completely to family meals and I'll stop breastfeeding. But he's not ready for that yet. He doesn't drink formula, doesn't drink water, and threw away his pacifier at 6 months. So now I'm the pacifier all night
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IRINA
We have nights like that too, but thankfully very rarely. Usually, she wakes up 2-4 times, sometimes just once, but that's also really rare.
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Tatyana K
Tatyana K Mine also refuse pacifiers and bottles, and never accepted them. But you definitely need to give water once you start solids. Maybe your little one is just thirsty? I breastfed my older one until she was over 2, but only for sleep after she turned one.
A friend of mine (a pretty good pediatrician) says that after a year, breastfeeding is only necessary in the mom's head.
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