Alena Bazhanova

I was setting something up on my daughter's phone last night, and I saw a message in the notificatio…

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I was setting something up on my daughter's phone last night, and I saw a message in the notification shade. Long story short: a classmate, who's 11, was making out with a boy a year older, took pictures, and sent them, bragging about it. How would you react to something like this? What if it was your daughter? She's only 11, not 16, for crying out loud! I talk to the girl's mom, and she's not always the most level-headed; she might even get violent about it. What would you do? I think I need to have a talk with my own daughter too, for prevention, to explain that this is all very early and all that. What do you think, girls?

Вот такая ситуация. Допустим, не дай Бог, умирает человек, например жена. Кто будет решать, где её х…

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Elina

1 child

I kissed someone when I was 11 too. I'm alive and didn't even become a prostitute 😁. I didn't send any photos though. Phones were flip phones without cameras back then 😁

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October 19, 2026, 5:15 AM

Ivanova anna

1 child

I wouldn't react at all. I'd just be curious and ask about the boy, if they're dating, and that's it, out of interest. What's there to kill over? Everyone matures differently; 16 is too early for some, while 11 is fine for others. Understand that it doesn't depend on the person, but on nature. Hormonal maturation happens at different times for everyone. Some get their period at 9 and start being interested in boys, kissing, and everything else, while others don't until they're 15 and are only interested in dolls until then. My first kiss was at 12, and my first real love at 13. But nothing bad came of it; I didn't have a ton of sexual partners because of it. After my first love, there was a second at 16. He's lying here next to me, snoring. He's 21 now, and we've been together since I was 16. As for my daughter, I wouldn't tell her not to kiss anyone or that she shouldn't before 16. Because when she wants to, she won't ask you anyway. Instead, I'd try to build a trusting relationship so that if she starts dating someone, she'll tell me. And, of course, have a conversation about contraception.

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October 19, 2026, 5:15 AM

Elena

I'd talk to my own child. I wouldn't interfere with someone else's.

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October 19, 2026, 5:15 AM

tatyana

2 children

I also think it's a bit too soon for making out, if it's true, of course, and not just bragging to each other

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October 19, 2026, 5:15 AM

Alaguzova Mariya

2 children

It's definitely still very early.

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October 19, 2026, 5:36 AM

Olya

1 child

I had my first kiss at 12 too, so what?! My mom never had any talks with me, she didn't even tell me about periods — and guess what, I didn't turn out to be a slut or get pregnant out of wedlock.
Talk to your daughter, regardless of the situation. There's no need to show her you saw the messages, and even less to interfere in the other girl's life. It's their personal business...

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October 19, 2026, 5:54 AM

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