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My mom had her second stroke in September and was hospitalized from September 22nd until today. She'…

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My mom had her second stroke in September and was hospitalized from September 22nd until today. She's had a caregiver since October 1st because she can't take care of herself. The caregiver cost me 4500, and she came three times a day for 1-2 hours. That's 90,000 for 20 days, plus additional expenses. This part, okay, we'll skip it. Some people have the option to care for their loved ones themselves. Today I bought her the medications prescribed after her discharge, totaling about 20,000 for the month. She also needs a walker, which cost another 8,500. Plus, she didn't go home but to a private nursing home because she can't be left alone, and I'm afraid of the cost of several 24/7 caregivers. What I'm most curious about is how an elderly person after a stroke is supposed to afford all their medications, everything they need, and still live on a pension of 24,000... and this is with some medications being provided for free!! Long story short, I'm a bit shocked by the amounts. I used to work for my dreams, now I work for my mom's care and the nursing home....
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prosto LYuDOK
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You know the saying: it's better to be healthy and rich than poor and sick.
If there are no relatives willing to pay, people die 🤷️
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October 21, 2026 at 7:27 PM
Anita
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My mother-in-law didn't need much after her stroke. Otherwise, we helped relatives.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:27 PM
yana rib
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A nursing home for free? Thanks, but no. It's awful there. I wouldn't wish that on my own mother. To get anything from social services, you have to spend a lot of time, nerves, and money too. My grandmother was disabled, and I went through all of that social services stuff with her, so I know what it's like. You can also get a social worker, but they're not very helpful – they only come for a couple of hours a few times a day, and that's it.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:33 PM
yana rib
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Anita This is the second stroke, just like the first one, there wasn't much to do either.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:33 PM
Anita
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Anita Our first one was enough. And mom was saving money for her old age.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:42 PM
lanochka
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My mother-in-law is bedridden, she has head problems and her legs stopped working. We have a caregiver. She's free, from social services, but not 24/7. We also get some free medication, and buy the rest. She barely eats, so we don't spend much on food. We also bought walkers, etc.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:57 PM
Evgeniya
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You're 100% right, it's easier to buy it yourself than to achieve anything.
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October 21, 2026 at 7:57 PM
Lyali
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We rented a walker for our grandmother from social services in 2019. We even wanted an anti-decubitus mattress, but they didn't have one there, they were all taken, so we had to buy one. A social worker also visited.
And medicines are so expensive now(( it's crazy.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:00 PM
Natalya
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That's what I'm telling you. It's either walk or pay.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:00 PM
Natalya
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Everything is so expensive (we buy joint medication for grandma, one jar alone costs 4 or 5, and the rest adds up to another 15 a month. I don't know where pensioners are supposed to get the money for all of this
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October 21, 2026 at 8:15 PM
yana rib
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Lyali I urgently needed a walker today to transport her. Because yesterday, I was told she was being discharged. I would have bought them for the car too, at least I would have had another day.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:21 PM
yana rib
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She only received 3 of the 15 medications for free. One medication costs 2400 and lasts for 5 days, but she needs to take it for a month.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:24 PM
yana rib
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Anita My mom worked at a state institution her whole life, and her salary was 30k. Now her pension is 24. You can't save up on that.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:24 PM
Anita
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Anita Understood. Older people often don't have pensions at all these days. This makes things even harder.
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October 21, 2026 at 8:27 PM
Yuliya
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It's more cost-effective to hire a nanny for days or hours, rather than for a full month with accommodation included, for example.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:00 PM
Yuliya
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lanochka Does your mother-in-law live with you? And does a social worker visit you? What do they do?
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October 21, 2026 at 9:09 PM
Yuliya
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Well, in our city, for example, there are no free, decent maternity homes—if they even exist. The paid ones aren't great either.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:12 PM
lanochka
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lanochka No, in another city. She cooks, cleans, and takes care of hygiene. She comes every day. This is a caregiver.
There's also a social worker who comes three times a week to bring groceries and run various errands. Not wow, but already pretty good. Plus, we asked a neighbor for money too; she comes just so someone is around, though she doesn't really do much.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:34 PM
yana rib
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How great it is to judge without knowing what someone is taking, calling it a scam. This scam is saving her life.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:54 PM
yana rib
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Yuliya 4 caregivers refused to come to the hospital, only 1 agreed to visit 3 times a day for 1-2 hours.
A live-in caregiver is great when the caregiver has a place to live.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:58 PM
yana rib
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It doesn't exist. The one the author is talking about is free, but they take 50% of the pension.
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October 21, 2026 at 9:58 PM
Tata
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Natalya Probably the calculation is that the children will help, nothing terrible...
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October 21, 2026 at 9:58 PM

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