I won't go into detail, I'll just say briefly: for various reasons, I've been working from home as a…

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I won't go into detail, I'll just say briefly: for various reasons, I've been working from home as a self-employed individual for the past few years. In busy months with lots of orders, I earn about the same as if I were working for a company, and in slow months... well, not so much. But that's background info, not what this is about. I'm a creative person, and I periodically get ideas for extra income, and if they take off, there's a chance to turn them into a business. I try to implement them, but the return is small. Sometimes it's even a financial loss. This, naturally, takes a lot of time, so much that I physically don't have time for household chores. Or vice versa: during the day I try to do housework, and in the evening I sit down for this, let's call it, hobby with development potential. My husband seems okay with it, but I often hear that I'm in the way, that this isn't clean, and so on. Now I've had another idea, which I can also try to pursue step by step. After telling my husband, he said, as always: "Don't think this will take off for you, nobody needs this." So, again, no support. Okay, I processed it and moved on. If I don't try, I won't know, I believe. Then yesterday, this topic came up again, and I heard again: if you're going to buy equipment, put it wherever you want, but not in the apartment. I lost it, again no support, "If you want to do it, do it, but don't bother us with your toys again, they'll get in the way." So, I'm thinking, maybe I'm really wrong, and I shouldn't even try to do something new, something of my own, and waste time on it. If the chance of success is small, and I should just live, doing my main job and taking care of the family?
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S Tasiss
I support you, of course you need to find yourself, you need to try and you need to attempt! Moreover, you are managing to earn from this. Your husband, in my opinion, is wrong. Even if it doesn't bring income, it will bring emotional satisfaction in the process, and a happy mom means comfort in the family! So go for it, you can do it!
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Gubareva Alina
Your husband is really wrong here, he shouldn't be cutting things off at the root like that. I'm also very idea-driven, always starting some mini-businesses, constantly trying things out, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but if it weren't for my husband's constant support, driving me around, helping, and encouraging me, I wouldn't have tried anything at all.
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chukavina tatyana
Trying new things is good, monetizing your hobbies is great, but the main thing is that your efforts don't just lead to losses. For example, today I decided to make Christmas tree toys, bought everything, started making them, but sales weren't going well. So, I put everything away and a month later I'm knitting, and so on in a cycle. Focus and achieve results with one hobby.
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Nadezhda
I'm all for having a hobby you love, besides work and chores. You need to consider how much the equipment will interfere with other family members, if there's enough space in the apartment to set it up without impacting others, if there will be smells/trash during the process, and if it will bother anyone. So, household chores are all on you? Does working from home mean you do nothing for your husband?
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Tatyana
My husband and I have an agreement: my hobbies have to pay for themselves...
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Valeriya
Support from loved ones is crucial in any endeavor. I recently faced something similar. I got involved in a small adventure that currently only requires time and nerves, and the right mindset. If it works out, I'll grow professionally, and my income will increase. The mildest feedback I received was: 'Don't get involved, it won't work out, I told you so.' I tend to neglect my home and family during slumps when I don't feel like doing anything and see no prospects. I had just started to climb out of this pit, and this is what I hear? But this is my first real push. If you've tried something before, invested in it, and it didn't work out, I can understand your husband's reaction.
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Oksana
Working from home is just not a rewarding job. When I was remote, I did housework during lunch breaks. Because: 'What's so hard about doing this in an hour?' I'm at home anyway. So my next job will definitely not be remote.
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Marina
Oksana Unfortunately, there are no options right now.
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Marina
Some days, yes, otherwise I won't get it done, but it's not every day. And how do you do it without sacrificing family time, as you say, if during the day there's not always enough time to manage your main work, prepare meals, clean, do laundry, and run around with the youngest to activities...?
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Marina
Valeriya I wouldn't say it was a complete failure, it did bring in some income, just not as much as I'd hoped.
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Marina
Tatyana And you think I don't cover everything myself? I work too. This isn't about finances
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Marina
Nadezhda Yes, the house, the kids are all on me, and my husband comes home late, so he physically can't manage. I work for myself and from home, so it falls on me. No, he doesn't think working from home means doing nothing, but at the same time, he doesn't understand why I haven't done something simple, like it doesn't take much time. I agree, it doesn't take much time, but when there are many such little things, plus work, plus my own business, plus driving the youngest around... I have to choose, and I don't always choose to pick up the scattered toys instead of working, for example.
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Marina
chukavina tatyana No, not everything is a loss; some things bring in income, but not as much as I'd like, let's say.
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chukavina tatyana
chukavina tatyana Well, it seems you're choosing a path that isn't very in-demand.
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Marina
S Tasiss Thank you for the support, but I'm starting to doubt if it's even worth trying anything, as my husband and I often don't see eye to eye on this topic.
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Valeriya
Valeriya If it's not a complete failure, then definitely try. And organizing daily life isn't difficult now. My oven or slow cooker usually does most of the cooking, with minimal effort from me. At the same time, I try to cook fresh meals every time. We eat the same thing for a maximum of 2 days. You need to involve the kids. When we still had our robot vacuum, it was our son's responsibility. He didn't do as good a job as I do, of course, but dust didn't pile up in the corners. And to vacuum, you first have to clear everything off the floor.
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Marina
Valeriya I don't involve the kids, my eldest is in a specialized class and comes home around 6-7 PM. She still needs to do homework and get some rest. The youngest is still too little to help with washing up.)
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Marina
chukavina tatyana Maybe
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Gubareva Alina
Gubareva Alina If things are just in the way, that's silly, of course. You can always set aside a corner of a room or a closet for your hobbies, organize the space neatly, and that's it. It's another matter if it really hits the budget hard.
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Elenka
Your husband just gets that your ideas are one better than the other.
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Tatyana
Tatyana If you can cover all the expenses yourself... then rent a workshop/space or office and do whatever you want.
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Tatyana K
You and your husband have different desires. He wants comfort, order, and his wife nearby, while you seek self-realization. Try to find a compromise. Dedicate a little less time to new ideas and spend the remaining time on your family.
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Valeriya
Valeriya Can't they at least pick up their own things and toys? If no one is home during the day, it's not hard to keep things tidy. Mine are usually home by 2. They eat and go to their activities. They come and go. They arrive and drop their things. So much energy goes into endless requests to clean up. It's easier to do it myself, of course, but that's not pedagogical. When they don't see me, I clean up.
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