I'm a mom of two kids who get sick often, and it's heartbreaking to realize I can't find a job. I'm…

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I'm a mom of two kids who get sick often, and it's heartbreaking to realize I can't find a job. I'm 39, and so far, I've only faced rejections. I really don't know what to do. I'm bothered by one thing: why do all moms on maternity leave get recommended everywhere to find remote work or become bloggers? What if I don't want to advertise my underwear to the whole country? What if I don't want to work for myself – paying taxes, managing accounting, and all the joys of self-employment? I don't want to work remotely with kids; I want to be part of a team. I want to leave the house, be active. I've become physically like an old woman; everything hurts. I want to move and socialize. What should I do? Resign myself to being useless? Go work as a cleaner because I'm turning 40 and don't fit the 'young and friendly team' mold? I don't want to sit around and complain; I want to get back to work, earn money for a car. I have many desires, many wants. But the opportunity slips away with every rejection 😩
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Vasilisa
Don't despair, keep searching for yours :) whoever seeks, will always find 💪
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mariya
Vasilisa Really hope so 🙏 Thank you
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mariya
I even thought about writing to the president about this problem women face. Maybe they'd pass a law for entrepreneurs 🤣
Just a wild thought, I know!)))
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Yuliya
A janitor has many pros: working outdoors, a good salary (at least where I am). We have only young people working, almost no older folks.
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mariya
Yuliya We have Asians working there, I don't think I can get in there 🤣
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Tanya
Yeah, it's like science fiction. They just yell 'give birth, we'll support you,' but in reality, it's a bust.
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Elena
Go into production, for example, sewing or weaving. Work on a 2-on, 2-off schedule for 12 hours. If you don't like it, you can leave.
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mariya
Elena I won't be able to work 12-hour shifts, as there will be no one to pick up the kids from daycare. I'm looking for a 5-day work week.
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Gulya
You can only get a job as a cleaner through major connections 😁
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Katrin
Get your child into daycare 😃 and they'll be fine while you work!
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Tanya
We never even got enough for bread 😁. In my entire life, I received a benefit of 150₽ per month for my son until he was three years old + milk kitchen supplies (we registered for it because of that - thanks for that). That's it.
Otherwise, they cut me off because I received a one-time financial aid from work, and they assumed I got such payments every month, and because we own two cars - a rusty and a leaky one, with a total value of about 800,000₽.
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Viktoriya
And what were you doing before you had children, before you were 33?
It's strange that you didn't build a career before then.
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olesia kasimova
I was looking for work for a long time, about 1.5 years. They really gave me a hard time finding a job. I was even rejected from McDonald's! 😂 I ended up finding a morning cleaning job in an office, and while my kids were sleeping, I'd clean early in the morning. Fitness for money! 😉 Then things started to get better: gifts for the kids, household supplies, bonuses. Later, I found a job at a toy warehouse. When the kids were sick, I took them with me. They'd sit and play with toys. 5 days a week. When school started, I had to quit. My son has special needs. One day, my husband found me a job as a seamstress. I had never worked in a factory before, I used to sew at home on a regular machine. They taught me everything, but the factory closed down. Now I've found a workshop near my home, and I'm now the workshop manager! 😄 Home, school, extracurricular activities, work - everything is within walking distance. And I really love my job. Keep searching, don't give up.
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mariya
Katrin I don't want just any job. I want to work in my favorite field, sales. But I keep getting rejected. I could work at a pickup point, I could be a cleaner, I could work as a cashier at a grocery store, but I wouldn't enjoy any of those jobs at all. There are tons of openings in St. Petersburg for my profession, but they keep passing me over. 🤷️
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mariya
Gulya Everything is under control!)
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Roza
For me personally, remote work was a lifesaver because my son was constantly sick… It's normal that you're being turned down. Who needs an employee who's constantly absent?! Unfortunately, not many people.
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mariya
olesia kasimova Thank you for your support and understanding.
I sent my resume to a company a week ago. It's a 15-minute walk from home. The role is exactly what I can do and want to do. But! I got rejected 😩 I was so bummed to be rejected. It was exactly what I needed.
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olesia kasimova
olesia kasimova You're welcome. Why did they turn you down? Did you have an interview?
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mariya
Viktoriya What do you mean I haven't built a career? I worked in sales for a company. Do you think I haven't worked anywhere?
My job is 1.5 hours away from home, with 3 subway transfers. I can't physically work there right now, although I know if I wanted to and they had an opening, they'd put in a good word for me and hire me. But! I wouldn't be able to pick up the kids from daycare in the evenings. I'd get home around 8 PM. My kids are in different daycares. My daughter is starting school next year. There's someone to pick her up from school, but my mom can't pick them up from daycare every day because she's sick. Sometimes it's hard for her to even move around the apartment.
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mariya
olesia kasimova I don't even get to the interview stage. They just look at my resume and reject me.
I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with my resume. Everyone seems to need a 'cool' resume these days.
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olesia kasimova
olesia kasimova Find someone to write your resume for you. I don't really rely on resumes. I call or meet in person. Good luck! 🤞
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Voronina Anastasiya
Katrin and the brain-racking every single day 🤣
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Rita
olesia kasimova Don't get discouraged, it just wasn't meant to be.
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Rita
Viktoriya And your mother-in-law can't pick them up? Maybe you can talk to her?
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SVETLANA SKALSKAYa
Katrin Because even though you have experience, it was a while ago, and you haven't been working recently. So, for an employer, you're like a blank slate, almost like someone without experience, and on top of that, with children – that's like a red card. No offense, but that's how it is. I'm speaking as someone who has interviewed and hired for a department.
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SVETLANA SKALSKAYa
As sad as it is, yes, that's really how it is.
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Lyudmila
olesia kasimova You are a shining example of how important it is to have a profession! You know how to work with your hands, you know how to sew, and that's in high demand right now!
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