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It's not the first time I've seen aggression from 11–12-year-olds toward younger kids. Today, one of them struck my six-year-old with a stick while we were on the merry-go-round. The boy is about 160 cm tall and overweight, so he has plenty of strength. Nearby, his younger companion was egging him on and throwing things too. Their classmates exposed them, saying this behavior is constant. They attack younger children for no reason. I approached them and told them to keep at least a kilometer away from us; if they do it again, I'll twist their ears. I immediately started talking about some rights. They are completely fearless, bold, and wild teenagers. Please share your experiences about how to handle this and what to say so that they fear us and stay away from the little ones?
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Ruzanna
Honestly, I haven't run into that at all, I think... Usually it's the opposite— there are such great kids around.
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Natalya
We have cameras everywhere, and I often warn people about them.
Some of you have asked the administration to install cameras on the playground.
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Anastasiya
Why tell them anything before it happened? You said it the moment it snapped. The incident is closed.
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Natasha
Please let them know that it was filmed on camera, and send it to the parents.
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Anastasiya
Natalya And what are the cameras going to do to them?))) A 500-ruble fine for the ancestors)))
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Nadezda
I was also pressured by someone to have a driver's license forged. I told him that the license would be forged at the police station, not with me. He warned that I would ruin his reputation everywhere, including at school; he later apologized to my little ones.
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Yuliya
Are we talking about rights?
Okay, at the police station they'll be told about their rights, and they'll also be informed about their duties.
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Aliya
When it comes to rights, don't forget your responsibilities as well. Otherwise you could get into trouble, and your parents might not be able to help. You may be placed on the PDN register quite early.
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Tatyana
There’s nothing I can do besides making a remark, unfortunately.
The only option would be to tell the parents, if you know them.
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Natalya
Natalya That's not 500.
There they'll register you in the system.
And you won't come back.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya They won't do anything to them there, I promise.
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Klinduh Ekaterina
Reaching out to child protective services when the children are unsupervised can feel arbitrary and unjust.
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Anastasiya
Natalya Five hundred—what's the point of keeping track?))) You can scare only those who haven't been there yet with tales about accounting.
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Yuliya
Yuliya Are you so sure about that?
The most important thing is to document everything.
At the very least, it will be put on record.
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Yuliya
Yuliya You can still contact the PDN (Juvenile Affairs Department); they can also involve the parents.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya I'm sure. I've already asked below about the purpose of keeping records. What's the point of it?
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Yuliya
Yuliya Oh, I didn't recognize you at first 🤣
The point of this monitoring is that families will be supervised; in some cases, parents may be fined.
And parents don't really like this, and they usually start raising their children more strictly.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya Fines range from 500 rubles to a couple of thousand. The parents and the children are basically the same people))) so it's long past time to stop believing in the power of mindless bookkeeping.
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Yuliya
Yuliya You might not believe it, but I have a personal example of the positive impact of considering others, from someone in my inner circle.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya These are the children who, on a single occasion, got frightened and soiled themselves; as a result, children like these, along with their parents, are not suitable for consideration.
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Yuliya
Yuliya And often, a single moment of losing your nerve is enough.
All those who seem bold in their words are really like that—deep down, they're still cowards.
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Yana
Klinduh Ekaterina So, will the guardian really drop everything and come over in five minutes to help sort this out?
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Yana
Tatyana Finding out isn't a problem. But what would that accomplish? They're already poorly brought up.
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Yana
I took it off, just in case.
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Nadezda
Nadezda These too were bold at first, and they raised their voices until I pulled out my phone.
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Yana
Anastasiya They’ve really pushed me to the limit. The question was how to scare them off so they wouldn’t bother me anymore. It’s a pity I can’t go up to them right now and smack them on the palms in return. That place hurts.
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Yana
Natalya There are no cameras.
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Yana
Ruzanna They're great with moms and dads.
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Natalya
Natalya It's sad.
Should I write it in Ukrainian?
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Yana
I don’t swear. I could have twisted his arms in half a second; I’ve trained in Krav Maga. He would be lying face down on the floor, whimpering. But nowadays our kids have rights.
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Yana
Anastasiya No, I wasn't touched.
But for some reason, other people's children are touching my children, and nothing is being done about it.
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Yana
Nadezda Yes! It happened to me once before: the father stepped away to the store, and his son immediately started arguing with the adults.
The father was out of sight on the horizon, while the child remained as innocent as a kitten.
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Regina Mullagulova
Klinduh Ekaterina Yeah, they're just sitting there waiting for calls like that.
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Yana
Anastasiya No, I read books—Korczak, for example.
That's how people were raised back then.
And it's a matter of life experience.
Have you ever been hit with a brush?
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Yana
Natalya They really don't need this at all.
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Anastasiya
Anastasiya No, that's why I didn't realize that smacking the palms is painful.
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Yana
Anastasiya Now you're in the know. This will come in handy when you visit a cosmetologist to address age-related changes. Don't even attempt it without anesthesia.
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Anastasiya
Anastasiya I'm not going to change anything. I'm comfortable with natural aging)))
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Yana
Anastasiya It's a pity that beauty has to be preserved)))
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Anastasiya
Anastasiya I don't need it. I've never stood by her, and I don't now, either.
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Fatima
Yuliya Parents will be summoned under clause 5.35, and nobody likes paying fines. Attending a committee where an adult aunt is being browbeaten by about ten other aunts isn’t something anyone enjoys either.
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Yana
If they were just barking, I wouldn't pay them any mind. Hmm, you're the ones insulting here, and I'm the aggressive one?)))
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Yana
There seems to be something unclear about her logic.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya People who moralize can be dismissed at any time. Not everyone was raised in a Soviet-era mindset, and not everyone feels ashamed of party meetings.
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Fatima
Yuliya Technically it's possible. But among the women here, one is wearing a gray tunic and the other is wearing a blue tunic, so they probably feel uneasy and stand with their eyes down, listening.
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Anastasiya
Yuliya They'll listen, and then they'll keep going)))
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Klinduh Ekaterina
Klinduh Ekaterina Well, then do nothing. In general, guardianship loves cases like this; they need it for reports. They will frighten the children; the children will get it from the parents.
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Tatyana
Tatyana There is nothing more to be done. From your side, this is the best you can do.
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Klinduh Ekaterina
Klinduh Ekaterina Yes, for the parents, three protocols under Article 5.35; this already amounts to taking the child away.
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