Woke up feeling really low today. My daughter has been waking up a lot at night lately – sometimes s…

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Woke up feeling really low today. My daughter has been waking up a lot at night lately – sometimes she loses her pacifier, sometimes she says she's too cold or too hot, sometimes she wants a drink, or sometimes for no reason at all. Today she woke up 10 times! Getting her dressed, brushing her teeth, washing her – she protests everything, and I have to do it all by force. After each time, she screams louder than mountains, throws herself on the floor, and kicks me. Honestly, I'm so fed up. It's mentally exhausting. I don't know if it's just a phase or her personality. With my older son, I have to work with him every day too; he's lazy, so I constantly have to find the right words, sometimes not very polite ones. Thankfully, my mother-in-law helps pick him up from daycare, so I don't have to travel halfway across town with the little one. On top of all this, I have persistent nausea, hormonal rebellion from pregnancy, constant need to pee, and just want to lie down and be left alone.
Сегодня была у гинеколога, поделилась с ней своими переживаниями. Она сказала, что бывает и просто т… What can you say about the breed in general?
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Voronina Anastasiya
Why can't I just vent? I understand everything perfectly, and I know it's going to get harder, and then it will pass, everything will pass, the kids will grow up and move out, and I'll die. But it's hard for me right now.
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Tatyana Korepanova
Hang in there, those times happen too.
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Antonina
Everything is temporary. Hang in there 💪
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Tatyana
You're talking to a strong, independent woman who's a bit of a "superwoman." It can be hard to get through to her that it's okay to be tired, to feel unwell, and to want to vent sometimes.
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Tatyana
I didn't write anything to you personally, so you didn't have to start writing your nonsense.
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irina samoylova
Weren't you planning to send your daughter to kindergarten? Have you started going already? Hang in there, it's good that you have your grandma and help.
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Elena
Sending you strength!
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Ruzanna
Hang in there, everything will be okay. Have a treat, drink some tea… I totally get it. My morning didn't start well either))) except mine has a screaming, tantrum-throwing, fighting almost eight-year-old!)
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Irina
I tell myself that at least there are 3 in my belly right now 🤣 A light stroll won't be happening anytime soon, especially not for the first 3 months while we're adjusting.
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Ruzanna
Kat, it's just a way to vent negative emotions... why not have a good cry if your soul needs it. The person is tired, that's normal. They'll shake it off and get back to it.
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Voronina Anastasiya
irina samoylova I've handed her over, but it's only for two hours for now. They won't let her stay longer, even though she's gotten pretty used to it. For me, it's mostly stressful with the morning rush. Unfortunately, Grandma is also working and is alone.
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Lelya
Hang in there, we women are strong, we can handle anything ❤️. I'm sick right now, it's tough too.
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irina samoylova
irina samoylova So, she's adjusting, and she's also picking up on how you're feeling. I think the baby is having a tough time right now too. And about your son, there are no lazy kids.
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Elenaa
Some days are just like that… Hang in there 🫂
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Ruzanna
It's like you're talking about apples and oranges...
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Voronina Anastasiya
First off, judging someone's manners and boundaries based on just a couple of lines seems a bit strange. No, we don't allow that here, but my daughter is at an age where she's actively testing those boundaries. My son has speech issues and attends a special group where he gets support, but we also need to work on it at home, which is our responsibility. Our daycare is far away because we live out in the sticks in a private sector area, so everything is a long way off, and there are no closer daycares.
My husband takes both kids to daycare before heading to his two jobs. Any ideas on where else we can streamline things? )))
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Voronina Anastasiya
Lelya I sometimes start scolding myself that no one is sick, and thank God. It's not all that bad yet :)
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Marishka
You'll have to figure that out yourself, I can't judge from just a couple of lines 🙃

All kids test boundaries, but not all kick their mom at one year old, and for not everyone is that a "normal part of growing up." Or do you live by the principle "they're just a child, that's their age"? And are your husband's only parental duties the conception of children and "...taking both to daycare before two jobs"? Nothing more?

So, are both in daycare after all? And you actually have the day free, considering you're not the one picking them up from daycare (at least one of them)?

I'm not even sure what the problem is with time management 🤔
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Voronina Anastasiya
I'm done trying to guess what you're thinking, and frankly, I don't see the point in continuing this conversation or justifying myself about my husband and children.
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