My husband has really been getting on my nerves lately, and we had a conflict. He was renovating my…

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My husband has really been getting on my nerves lately, and we had a conflict. He was renovating my apartment, which is registered to my mom. I'm living there with the kids now, and I keep kicking him out. He's supposedly planning to get an appraisal to get money back for the renovation – I told him to just sue me. Meanwhile, he's driving a car that's registered to my mom. He repaired it, so my late father allowed him to drive it, but he won't give me the keys. I have a spare set, so when he comes over, I'll drive the car away. I'm afraid this stress will give me a stroke. I have no strength left to get rid of this freeloader. On top of that, he's telling me to move into my parents' apartment and live there. I just can't take it anymore.
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Kristina
Divorce and changing the locks
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Feya
Divorce?
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Vedeneva Yuliya
Again, are you not in your parental apartment right now? Maybe you should get a divorce.
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Evgeniya
Feya This is definitely necessary. I just can't get to court right now.
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Evgeniya
Vedeneva Yuliya It's mine now, but it's registered under my mom's name. I also have my parents' apartment. In my own place, I
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Evgeniya
It's so hard to get them out, it even comes to fights. It's wearing my nerves thin. We just need to change the locks.
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Vedeneva Yuliya
Vedeneva Yuliya So why is he demanding you go to your parents' place if all the housing is yours?
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Evgeniya
Vedeneva Yuliya Nerves are on edge
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Feya I assure you, it's unlikely to go to court and get examined either 😉 As far as I know, you can file for divorce without leaving home, by the way!)
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Feya This is divorce through the court, but you can file the application online) Theoretically, he can indeed demand compensation for repairs through the court, but there will be so much hassle to prove anything that you have to be a very determined person)
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Evgeniya
I'm thinking of filing a complaint against him.
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Evgeniya
Feya He said he has money for now and will sue, well, let him try, he won't prove anything. And I don't think he'll go embarrass himself anywhere, he has nowhere to live right now, the house has bare walls
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Evgeniya
Feya I couldn't get it done through Gosuslugi at all. It said that with this many children, you have to apply in person. He's not on Gosuslugi yet.
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Svetlana
You don't understand! He absolutely looooves you! 🥰 and you love him so much too!
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Evgeniya
It's clear he won't prove anything, I have the receipts
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Evgeniya
Svetlana 🤣🤣🤣 So funny
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Ekaterina
For divorce and alimony.
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Evgeniya
Kristina I'm already thinking about moving to another city, away from him
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Kristina
Kristina As an option
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Evgeniya
Kristina It's a real handful with three kids, especially with such a little one!
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Evgeniya
So it turns out it's up to Mom to deal with this (( She's also in conflict with him. His father died a month ago, and he's completely moved in with us. I'm afraid he'll drive us all to the grave. My heart is already in bad shape, with his father's death and all of this...
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Mariya Glebova
Who actually bought the apartment if it's on mom's name?
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Evgeniya
Mariya Glebova We all chipped in together. My parents and I. My family bought
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Evgeniya
That's an interesting take. He paid 1,500 [currency] a year in child support for his kids. Meanwhile, we were feeding his children, and I was working. He's the one taking advantage of us.
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Mariya
So, you're writing that he was doing renovations, fixing the car, and his father allowed him to drive it?
If you had hired a crew, the renovation would have cost you 3 times as much.
What's the problem with splitting up without hurting anyone? Agree on the car, let him take it as settlement?

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Biryuk Svetlana
Well, then maybe mom can report the theft… And they suggest changing the locks and staying at mom’s for a while…
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Mashenka
Call the police! He's not registered in the apartment, and they'll quickly get him out. Call a locksmith and change the locks. If he starts banging on the door again, call the police. It's all simple and won't stress you out.
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Yanina
Feya What do government services have to do with it? Just go to the court's website. Besides, getting to the court only takes about 2 hours if you really want to.
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Evgeniya
Feya Oh, I get it now. I didn't know you could do it through the court's website, thank you
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Yanina
Feya
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Evgeniya
Feya Thanks. I doubt he'll be seeing the kids much, they're all registered with me anyway. And what would he even do with them? He's unlikely to take them to school, and he doesn't engage with them now. I just hope he doesn't try to take them away.
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