Went to the clinic with my son to give blood... it was the usual, a big queue, people getting confus…

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Went to the clinic with my son to give blood... it was the usual, a big queue, people getting confused about who was next 🤪. A woman came with her child with a disability and started saying she could go ahead of everyone. Then other moms with children with disabilities started arguing with her, saying they were also in line. And this lady told everyone that she wished all disabled children... it sounded awful, of course. I felt sorry for the woman, but you can't say things like that.
Last night my son started complaining about neck pain... especially when turning or moving his head.…
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Valeriya
Yes, unfortunately, this is common. I'm so sorry, but other people aren't to blame for others' personal tragedies. I would actually remove all these "skip the line" privileges. Everyone has different reasons for needing to go faster. Some people are rushing to work, others have a baby at home, or a toddler in the middle of a crisis. Those with school-aged children also need to hurry – they need to get the child to school and themselves to work. And now I'll probably share an unpopular opinion: why are mothers of children with disabilities in such a hurry? There are various conditions, but most don't prevent waiting an extra 10 minutes.
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Natali
Valeriya So those were my thoughts. Essentially, there's no rush. God forbid anyone.
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Nadezda
Well, she's right, she can go ahead of the line. But such words are awful
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Nadezda
Valeriya Actually, there are different types of disabilities, and it can be difficult to sit in line with them.
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Viktoriya
Nadezda The author writes that there were other children with disabilities in the queue as well. When there are several such children, that also creates a queue.
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Lesechka Shihova
She really has the right to skip the line.
As for the words, she shouldn't have said them, but her "well-wishers" really got on her nerves.
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Nadezda
Nadezda Well, it's their right to wait in line; they could have also gone through without waiting. Why should everyone else wait just because they want to?
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Lesechka Shihova
Valeriya What do you mean they have nowhere to rush, sorry?
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Elena
Yes, about the queue, that's understandable... but such horrible words(
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Lida
I once missed my appointment because they said 'We're already here, we just need to pick up the referral,' and the lady and her healthy son, who's taller than me, came in and took 40 minutes! I had two kids with me, one with a high fever and the other with a cough and runny nose. We arrived on time... and they just needed a piece of paper... I was late everywhere because of them! Now I don't let anyone cut in line. On time, on time...
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Viktoriya
Nadezda Look. Five women with disabled children, let's say. How will all five of them manage at the same time?
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Valeriya
Valeriya Exactly - they're different. With those who are difficult, there are no questions, of course. I think they'll be let through anyway. And those who can wait calmly usually push through like tanks.
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Nadezda
Valeriya And who decides that? You?
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Kristina
Moms of special needs children definitely don't have it easy, and letting them skip the line is the least you can do for them.
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Elena
Lesechka Shihova Yes, about the waiting list, I understand... but such awful words(
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Nadezda Actually, it's interesting: if there are several disabled people, does a queue form of those who are not in line?) They can't enter as a group anyway, so they'll have to wait)
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Nadezda
Nadezda I doubt there will be that many at once. And if there are two or three, they'll go one after another. But I'm saying that if others decide to join the general queue, she doesn't have to do the same just because of them
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Nadezda
Nadezda This is still less than waiting for the whole queue
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Elena
Kristina Mothers of children with disabilities had a dispute, while others calmly let it go.
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Elena
And the whole queue was silent
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Nadezda
💯 They just said they have disabled people too, but in reality, that's not the case
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Elena
No, we even got the pink slip and showed it.
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Elena
Lesechka Shihova My post isn't about that... it's about how someone could even wish that upon someone else.
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Oksana Kornienko
Why not? They are just words that mean nothing, but it made the woman feel better. I haven't had such cases, but sometimes I want to say something similar. You just need to approach the doctor and say that we are here and they will call you without a queue. Arguing with the queue is useless, everyone is in a hurry, everyone is on edge and so on.

I've been sitting in line, and my daughter throws a tantrum, and I just sit there, not using any special privileges, I have nowhere to rush. That's when people from the queue let me go ahead 🤣🤣🤣 So I'm calm
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Lesechka Shihova
Lesechka Shihova No way.
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anzhelika
Oksana Kornienko We have the same thing.
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Ekaterina Kropotova
Ouch....
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Valeriya
Valeriya Of course not. I mean, if someone needs it more than others for some reason, they can just say so kindly, and people will understand. But imagine: pregnant women, people with disabilities, babies with infants - they all have the right to go first. How can this be implemented if there are many people with this right?
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Oksana Kornienko
Oksana Kornienko Are they skipping it too?
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anzhelika
Oksana Kornienko The whole situation with my daughter
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Pozdnyakova Yuliya
Nadezda That's true) Although, the lady described in the post didn't specify if there was a line of people cutting in line, even though there were other disabled people there… Scheduling appointments is clearly easier than these kinds of "shows": "who's the loudest here?" or "who's the most brazen here?")
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Nadezda
Valeriya Babies have their own day, you know.
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Lesechka Shihova
Lesechka Shihova Yes, I've had the urge to say something similar lately, but I'm holding back for now. God, if he exists and everyone believes in him, sees everything and will punish everyone according to their deeds.
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Lyana
Valeriya Why are moms of healthy children in such a hurry?
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Lesechka Shihova
And so, I go to my physical therapist privately.
But I have the money because I have a husband.
Sadly, not everyone can afford that.
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Marina Boldyreva
Valeriya So, in your opinion, mothers of children with disabilities don't have jobs they need to rush to? They can't also have a baby at home or a three-year-old going through a crisis? Children with disabilities don't go to school, so they don't need to rush there? They have all the same worries and problems as you, only with the added challenge of a child with a disability.
Now, imagine for a moment that a disability isn't just a piece of paper and a meager pension. It means you can't get sick, so you can't wait in line. They might act out after 3 minutes of waiting, so you can't wait in line. It's difficult for them to sit/stand, so you can't wait in line. They might not cooperate with the doctor after 3 minutes because you managed to convince them right then and there, so you can't wait in line. And there are many more "so" reasons that are hard for us mothers of healthy children to even imagine.
Try to think a liiittle 🤏🏻 wider and show a tiiiny 🤏🏻 bit more compassion for those who are less fortunate than you.
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Yuliya
Nadezda People with disabilities went one after another, and without waiting in line. We were at the emergency room like that, they all went in single file. And we let them all go ahead. It's their choice to stand in the general queue.
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Ayrish
Valeriya Where to? Do you think we have nowhere to rush? My day is scheduled by the minute: several classes a day, sports, a trip to the store, a walk with my child in the playground, and in the evening, I still need to cook dinner, clean up, and do homework with my child. Believe me, we have things to do too. But I would never wish anyone the kind of child mentioned in the post. This is my child, mine, and I carry her with pride. I adore my child
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Natali
Valeriya I mean, like, not rushing off to school or work. But, of course, only in those specific situations.
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Lesechka Shihova
Valeriya Where did you get that idea?
People with disabilities go to kindergartens and schools too. And moms often work as well.
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Natali
Valeriya I mean only those who are really disabled and in wheelchairs. Otherwise, it's just a queue, as it should be.
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Valeriya
Valeriya That's exactly what I was talking about. You can't wish that on anyone and you need to stay reasonable. No one is to blame, and if you need help, people usually respond calmly to a normal, polite request. Everyone is in a hurry – moms of children with disabilities and moms of healthy children alike. If someone needs it more, then okay. But you need to explain why, not curse. 10 beneficiaries can't enter at the same time, you can't deny that, right?
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Kristina
Oksana Kornienko OMG, my mom's mom wasn't allowed into the office without waiting in line 🤣🤣🤣 and she's the doctor who works there!
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Olga
Yes, I understand all of that. It's just that I have the opportunity, so I go. It was enough for me when I missed a mom with a child who was fussy, turned out to be autistic, and I was fending off the "normal" moms while the girl was in the office. She was only in there for 3-4 minutes. When we came out of the clinic, she gave me a chocolate bar 😭💔 Oh, for goodness sake, it's normal to miss things sometimes. But here, on one hand, there's barking, and on the other, chocolate bars 💔
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Yulya
Valeriya What if I meet you in line and you decide my child doesn't deserve to go ahead? Like, what's our hurry? A vial of medication arrives, the doctor calls, and I need to go to the hospital urgently. I'm rushing, there are 15 people ahead of me, and I need to get a prescription for the medication. I need a referral for hospitalization. They're expecting us at the hospital within the hour. What am I supposed to do? And I can't keep my child in the clinic with other kids! Because she's on chemotherapy, and any case of chickenpox, measles, or similar would be fatal for her, as she has a life-threatening illness. Should I beg them or read out her medical history? Maybe I should hang a sign on my back explaining why we should be allowed to go ahead?
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Lesechka Shihova
Because it's such a rare thing to see humanity, that you want to be thankful for seemingly ordinary human things. I'm sure that mom was just bullied and expressed it out of helplessness. But of course, there's also a small percentage of those who are just rude and mean. But I personally don't know any of them.
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Olga
I agree with you.
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Valeriya
Valeriya Only completely out-of-touch people would ask for a discharge. I still believe they are the minority. As for the doctor's words - no comment...
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