Marina

2 children

Do you think the division of responsibilities in your family is fair? Share how things are with you…

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Do you think the division of responsibilities in your family is fair? Share how things are with you and your husband. We're especially interested in hearing from those who have been married for a long time, not just a year or two.

I don't want to discuss this with loved ones because they judge and don't understand me. Anyway, whe…

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Feya

2 children

We've been together for 15 years. We do everything together. If he's home, he cooks, cleans, and helps the kids with homework. He bathes the little ones. We don't have a division of labor based on gender.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

mariya

3 children

We do absolutely everything together :) We've been married for 16 years. I don't even know how to describe the division of labor. My husband is off today. I worked. He made breakfast. Then we went to our dacha (summer house), then we stopped by my mom's, he replaced a floorboard in the banya (sauna). Then at home, I cooked soup, he peeled potatoes and put them on to stew. I took food over to his dad. He then went and washed him. Now we're lying here watching videos 🤣

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Marina

2 children

Feya Are you working?

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Marina

2 children

mariya Were you always married when you worked?

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Feya

2 children

Feya Not right now. My baby will be six months old next week

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Marina

2 children

Feya And what about after maternity leave?

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Olesya

2 children

We lived the first year without kids, both worked a lot, and everything was equal: whoever got home first cooked dinner. If we cleaned, I vacuumed and he mopped. Then I went on maternity leave, and the house automatically became my responsibility. He's the breadwinner; he might cook dinner on weekends, at most. Now I freelance, working from home about 4-5 hours a day. School and homework are on me. My husband takes the kids to training in the evenings, goes to the market and warehouse for groceries on weekends, cooks dinner on weekends, and takes out the trash in the mornings – that's it. But his job until recently was also such that if a project was due, his workday could be from 8 AM to 9-10 PM.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Feya

2 children

Feya Of course, I work. I started working at 14 during my holidays. Then, in my second year of university, I started working. I only took breaks for maternity leave.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Nadezda

3 children

My husband works, so when he's at work I do chores, and when he's home, we do them together.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Irina

3 children, planning another

I don't accept any division of labor. Every adult family member should contribute to the family.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Marina

2 children

Irina And so, things turn into hints and misunderstandings. Chaos. I'm all for distribution

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Lina

1 child, planning another

We try to do everything together. If it's the weekend and we're both off, we do things together. Now that I'm back at work, when my husband has a day off, he does the chores. When I have a day off, I do them. Our older son always helps out too.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Tamasyan Yuliya

2 children

We do everything together as a family. The kids get involved too. The only thing I always do is cooking. Everyone likes my cooking, and I don't mind doing it either.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Pozdnyakova Yuliya

1 child

We've been together for 17-18 years. The main idea of dividing chores is pretty much in line with 'the poor have no servants' 😉. In principle, everyone does everything (including our child, but to a lesser extent for now). There are some divisions based on personal dislikes: my husband, for example, can't stand wiping dust, and I don't wash dishes – I either leave them for him or the dishwasher does it. The main idea is that whoever is home at the moment, takes care of things. If we're both home, we get everything done faster together! Okay, there's a bit of an imbalance because I'm more of the organizer – until I say what needs to be done, no one really gets moving, but... For that, the poor things often end up doing what I'm not too keen on: bathrooms and the kitchen are mostly my husband's job, and vacuuming and mopping the floors are for the little one (for now). I mop the floors every two weeks (so at least the floors are clean by my standards sometimes)), and otherwise, I mostly handle cooking, dusting, and tidying up small messes.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Naziya sidiki

We don't have divisions of labor. Everyone does everything. Cooking, cleaning, the baby – we do it all together. If one of us is feeling lazy, the other steps in. If one is sick, the other takes over.

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

Anzhela

He took out the trash, bought groceries, I did everything else — the result: divorce and my maiden name. 🤣

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November 15, 2026 at 2:06 AM

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