Hi everyone. How would you react if your workplace told you that you're difficult to work with emoti…

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Hi everyone. How would you react if your workplace told you that you're difficult to work with emotionally? It's a long story, but the gist is that I work as a cook in a kindergarten. My partner is on maternity leave, and they've assigned nannies to help me, taking them away from their groups. Before, these two ladies always happily came to help me, but a month ago, they wanted to send one back. She said she couldn't do it and found it emotionally difficult, either with the kitchen work or with me. And the second one left for her group today and supposedly said the same thing. By the way, I'm not confrontational, I tend to stay quiet, don't gossip about anyone, sometimes I just let things go in one ear and out the other. I do my job on my own, I don't boss anyone around, and I don't ask anyone for anything. And these girls act like nothing's wrong, smiling, talking to me, trying to pry information out of me – it's unpleasant. I've never encountered anything like this. They're both over 40: one is 43, the other is 47. One has a graduating group, the other doesn't.
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Lenushka
Any criticism is unpleasant, but there are worse situations, like when management allows subordinates to be insulted and slandered.
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Marina
Maybe they're just not comfortable working in the kitchen. Why are you taking on their responsibilities?
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Mariya
Girlfriends.
Next time, I'd mess with their food and then complain to the manager, just so they wouldn't talk nonsense 🥸 🤣
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Ievleva kseniya
Working in the kitchen must be tough.
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Vasilisa
Is it an option to just ask them directly? If it's possible, I'd ask them face-to-face what their feedback is about your work and what they're not happy with.
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Nadezhda
Looks like they just needed an excuse.
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Lolo
It happens that you feel uncomfortable with someone, even if they aren't a bad person. Some people like to be quiet and feel uncomfortable with chatty folks, and some are the opposite. We're all different. Yes, it's not pleasant to hear that someone finds it hard and uncomfortable to be around you, but it happens. You probably also find it mentally challenging to communicate with and be around certain people, right?
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Irina Vishnyakova
So ask about it
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Elena
They don't like working in the kitchen. And wouldn't you know it, they found someone to pawn it off on, so it's you. They can't exactly say, 'We don't want to wash dishes...' So don't stress about it.
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Elvira
Marina Yeah, they didn't specify what exactly they're uncomfortable with, but it seems to lean more towards my side.
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Elvira
Lenushka As far as I understand, the management isn't aware of this yet
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Elvira
Mariya How?
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Elvira
Ievleva kseniya But you were working before, and one of them was saying, "Oh, I can just relax in the kitchen away from the kids."
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Elvira
Vasilisa This isn't about work, it's specifically directed at me.
I plan to ask them straight to their face tomorrow.
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Elvira
Lolo Maybe. But I won't talk about it everywhere, and here it feels like they're being sneaky and think I won't find out.
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Elvira
Elena thank you 🙏
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Katerina Dmitrieva
And why should the nanny also wash the pots for the cooks?
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Ievleva kseniya
Ievleva kseniya Don't mind them, don't let it get to you.
It's their problem, it's hard for them, not for you.
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Shashkova Anna
Management is cutting corners on employees.
But why do you believe those who told you this? As far as I understand, no one said this directly to your face. And why are you taking it personally right away? They went to work as nannies, not to help in the kitchen
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Shashkova Anna
Ievleva kseniya Are they not willing to take you on as a partner? Why aren't they giving you a cleaner as an assistant?
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