Hi everyone! At the start of the year, I decided I wouldn't get stressed or upset about homework wit…

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Hi everyone! At the start of the year, I decided I wouldn't get stressed or upset about homework with my son. I'd sit with him for as long as it took. But this is the second weekend he's just driving me crazy, I don't even know what to call it. Now we're back to doing Russian homework: we wrote it in draft, then in the notebook – everything's wrong, in every word. How can you sit and copy like that? 🤦️🤦️ I ripped out the page, made him rewrite it, and went into another room so I wouldn't yell. And ahead of us, we still have to learn a rule and prepare for an English dictation, which also means learning words. How do you cope? He's in 2nd grade.
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aika
Oh, we do homework the same way 🤣🙃 Can't wait for vacation
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Elvira
aika Sending you both so much love and understanding. 🙏 🥹
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Marina
1) Don't write on scratch paper. 2) Don't yell about mistakes (the child doesn't make them on purpose).
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yankovskaya yuliya
The second one was like that too, I sat with my son, sometimes he'd lie on the floor and play with his hands, a nightmare. In 3rd and 4th grade, he went to a tutor for 2 hours for Russian and Math. Math got much easier, and the tutor controlled his homework there. But Russian is just hard, even to this day. Now in 6th grade, he does interesting subjects by himself, but I have to remind him and check his Russian homework; I don't need to sit with him anymore. The girls are all on their own, I don't participate in the process at all. My middle daughter studies better than the older one. The youngest is also independent; I ask her to check her assignments, and she's already finished everything and memorized her poems. But I really struggled with my oldest one ((
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tanya
I don't do homework with my kids. That's it. Whatever grades they get from what they do on their own, that's what they get. I've done my schooling. If they ask for help, I'll help. If something's not clear, I'll explain it. But sitting there and supervising? No!
I have enough of my own homework to do.
5th grade and 2nd grade.
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aika
aika I try not to yell, but when my son starts copying homework with me around, it's like he's doing it on purpose with tons of mistakes. The result is I rip out pages and we rewrite it. My nerves give out sometimes, and I even yell at him. Just need more patience 😊 My older son was a smarty-pants and did everything himself, I rarely had to check on him. But the middle one.....
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Elvira
tanya I don't control it either, but he asks for help and in the end, I'm the one stuck sitting here.
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Tatyana
I don't sit next to them... checked/mistakes/went to rewrite/and so on in a loop... if it was necessary)
Now I have kids in 4th and 7th grade... everything is calm now
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Elvira
Marina But what should I do? Should I leave him for a second year now, like, super easily?
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Efremova Evgeniya
Poor kid. I didn't do any of their homework at all. Only if something needed to be printed for school. I'm a psycho and didn't want to upset myself or the kids. My mom used to bang my head on the table during homework, did any good come of that? No.
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tanya
tanya They came, explained, and left to do their own things.
Your control just kicks in. You don't want them to get bad grades. But let them learn to get and fix them.
Cheating is bad – it means they don't read enough. Their attention is scattered. They're rushing.
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Alaguzova Mariya
Kids are all different, you know? Some find learning easy, others struggle. Your child isn't to blame for being distracted or tired. Try doing a quick exercise every 10-15 minutes to get the blood flowing and help them focus. Explain that the longer they sit on their homework, the less free time they'll have.
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FoXy
My second grader is struggling too. I'm taking magnesium 🫣😁. The second pregnancy is harder for me than my 8th-grade one was. I'm also tearing out pages and rewriting them. Homework is the worst!
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Marina
Marina Where did you get that info about the second year? Analyzing mistakes. Explaining what you didn't understand. How will writing in a draft and your yelling help with learning?
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Anna
Not nervous at all.
What's the point?
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Ekaterina
My kid screamed their head off the entire first grade and half of the second. I thought the neighbors would call child protective services, and it was all accompanied by curse words. Then, oh miracle! They had an epiphany and started doing their homework themselves 🥹
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yuliya yakubova
I'll make sure he knows that it's his problem, if he messes up, he'll go to school and get what he deserves. And later, his salary will be paid the same way; if he keeps messing up his whole life, he'll be working just to eat.
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Elvira
Marina Kids are usually left behind if they don't understand the curriculum for a certain grade. They probably write on scratch paper to remember, right? So there are no mistakes on the final draft
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Elvira
tanya I leave, and he follows me after a while, but I still end up leaving and staying again. I don't have control, but I sit next to him while he writes. I leave, and he follows.
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Elvira
Efremova Evgeniya No one sat with me either, I did it myself, but here it's a nightmare. I want him to do it himself, he doesn't care about bad grades, he messes up just like he always did.
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Elvira
Alaguzova Mariya I'm not arguing, but we just sat down and he's copying with mistakes. I told him to write two letters at a time, and it seems like he's reading and writing, but he still makes two mistakes per word 🤦️
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Elvira
Ekaterina I'm not yelling! I just don't know how else to get through to him or explain things. He sits there yawning, seems to listen, but when I start asking questions, he just stays silent and blinks.
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Marina
Marina No, not for that. It's just so it looks neat in the final draft, nothing more. But it doesn't work for everyone. And 'not working' is your case. Some kids write better the first time in a rough draft than they do when they're tired and writing the final version the second time. What's there to memorize? Homework is assigned to practice rules. Just writing the same thing 10 times doesn't help you master a rule. You actually need to think about it, not just copy it from one place to another.
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Elvira
Marina Honestly, I don't care if his work is a bit messy, though ideally, it would be error-free, but I know that's not realistic. Still, can't you copy from a finished example without mistakes? 🤦️
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Olesya
Marina Actually, in the second year, they don't even keep failing students without parental consent. If they're making mistakes just by copying, it's not about knowledge, it's about attention and perseverance. Maybe their brain just isn't mature enough if they're still 7 years old in the 2nd grade. Buy notebooks with brain exercises, take breaks between drafts and final copies, maybe they're just tired, hence the absentmindedness.
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Marina
Marina It's not allowed. Many kids are like that in second grade. That's why they have assignments like 'copying for a grade.' They're still learning to copy carefully. It's normal to make mistakes while learning. I sit with my daughter and watch every letter she writes. Sometimes she gets distracted and goes off track. I stop her right away and encourage her to be attentive. To avoid mistakes when copying, have her say aloud what she's writing (read the word aloud, then say it syllable by syllable as she writes).
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