My son seems to be doing a bit better, he's even remembering who he's made friends with, their last…

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My son seems to be doing a bit better, he's even remembering who he's made friends with, their last names and first names. Before this, he'd been going for three weeks and only knew 4 kids by name. I think he'll adapt even better. I was honestly really worried that he wasn't socializing or making friends there. Now I have a different reason to worry – meltdowns, he's having tantrums. This past week was really tough, and every evening it was either tears or screaming, then more tears, he screams a lot. He's usually lazy, but he's never screamed like this. Little things set him off, you can tell his nervous system can't handle the load. I can't get anything done right away because he throws a fit. That's our problem. It's hard for him to adapt to a big group, even three lessons are a bit much, plus homework, they've started assigning a lot. I've scheduled a neurologist appointment for him. What usually helps kids release tension and stress?
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Katerina
Daily routine, fresh air walks, pine baths.
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Olga
Katerina We're sticking to a routine with bedtime and wake-up times on schedule. My mother-in-law tried to get him to nap at noon, but it didn't work out. He drinks mint tea, I give him baths, and sometimes a massage before bed… He's also taking B vitamins, but he's really struggling lately. Maybe it's this 7-year-old phase, who knows?
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Tanya
Just a tired guy. Needs a break. First graders are supposed to get extra holidays soon, right?
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Katerina
Katerina It's more about adapting to new conditions and workload. You should still help with homework for now… Independence is great, but give him time to get used to it. He'll have plenty of time to do everything himself later. There are 10 years of school ahead, and it's more important not to hate it in the first year than to become completely self-sufficient by September.
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Olga
Tanya It's the end of October, in three weeks... I hope we can make it. We still haven't started swimming lessons. I was just thinking about Monday, but today his nose is stuffy and he feels a little warm, no fever, but his head is warm... I can't take him like this, he wouldn't enjoy it at all.
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Tanya
Tanya Yes—for a long time. Maybe you can distract him for a little while.
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Olga
Katerina My mother-in-law is taking care of his homework while I'm at work. I'm already helping him read and understand his surroundings; they write and do math together. So far, our only extras are physical education (specifically, group sports classes that include gymnastics, neuro-sessions, and sensory integration) twice a week, and that's it.
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Olga
Tanya I don't know, we'll see how it goes on Monday. Maybe I'll give her a day or two to rest, and on the weekend we'll go for a walk in the park somewhere to get her mind off things. No homework was given for the weekend, so she'll get to relax.
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Alesya
I started giving my daughter magnesium on September 1st, and we just finished the course today. But she's a calm girl, she does all her homework at after-school care, so no problems there. I just check it at home, and that's it. They don't assign much homework yet. My son is in kindergarten, and he also took magnesium for the first time. He's a fidgety one, can't sit still. I noticed that after 2 weeks of taking it, he became calmer and stopped blinking his eyes, which was an issue for him.
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Tanya
Tanya You can. But try not to skip too often. It might be harder to get back into it later. But you can try.
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Olga
Alesya If the doctor prescribes magnesium, I'll give it too. For now, she's taking Omega and B vitamins. I know the doctor said to take them in courses during exertion, but it's not really getting any easier.
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Suhareva Olga
Oh, nothing really, mine was fussy at first too, but she got used to it.
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Katerina
Katerina Oh, that's good, he'll get used to it faster with help. I remember you wrote that he should already be doing his homework, packing his bag, and household chores, etc., but it's really better to wait a bit with that. Kindergarten and school are very different, it's like an adult going from working as a cashier to being a surgeon. It's similar, but the skills and level of responsibility are incomparable.

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Olga
Tanya I try not to give him days off, only if he's not feeling well, so he has a routine and a habit.
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Olga
Katerina Maybe I overloaded him, I'm trying to lighten his load a bit. Let's see how next week goes. I've noticed he's been enjoying his baths more, he seems to relax in the water. Anyway, I can see he had a really tough week.
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Alesya
Alesya We're taking magnesium with B6. I think the doctor will prescribe it; it's good for the nervous system. Beyond that, offer more support, praise small successes, and tell her she can do it, that you believe in her. If it doesn't work the first time, it will on the 10th try, and so on. All kids adapt differently. I see that our teacher often tells parents who are struggling, 'She tried hard today, everything was fine,' or addresses specific difficulties. It's easy for me with my daughter in this regard; she was independent from kindergarten, and the teacher even told me there shouldn't be problems with her studies. But with my son, it will definitely be harder in the future; he has a different temperament.
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Olga
Suhareva Olga I need to help somehow, I'm worried it might be too bad in that regard
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Tanya
Tanya And that's the right way to do it.
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FoXy
I gave him magnesium the whole school year, with breaks, of course. He was in 1st grade last school year too. Now he's in second grade, and it's already easier for him. We took it together. He used to cry too 😬🫣
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Anastasiya
They adapt, and pick up new habits from the new group... My youngest didn't ask anyone's name for a month. He said he made friends with a boy, but I don't know his name. I asked him why he didn't ask, and he said, 'Why?'. He couldn't understand that school is for a long time, not like the 2 hours of adaptation and then going home.
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Olga
Alesya My smart boy and teacher know this, but he's very lazy and we have emotional issues. He's very tactile and emotional. He's basically used to studying, having had two years of preparation before school, and he's used to doing homework. I thought the workload was just right, but apparently the summer (he really did nothing all summer before school) took its toll, and he's become very relaxed, or maybe it's just an adaptation thing
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Olga
Anastasiya Yeah, that's just how it is with us, he doesn't ask for names or anything, says he doesn't need to know. But here, he must have heard what they call them at school and remembered.
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Alesya
Alesya Maybe she's tired from having too many kids. My daughter gets tired from all the noise during breaks and in the cafeteria. But where isn't there noise when there are 34 kids in the class? 😔🙄
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Olga
FoXy He's not crying, seems okay in that regard, but he's used to going to daycare and classes. I really tried to make sure he could handle the workload, but this is still different, I guess. Or maybe it's just his age? I can't figure it out.
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Olga
Alesya We're also at 34 weeks. Mine really doesn't like noise, and for the first few weeks, he just looked out the window during breaks. His teacher already started telling me that it wasn't normal – he doesn't run around, doesn't make friends, doesn't play with others, he's just quiet. But it was hard for him with all the noise. He was used to groups of 8-15 people maximum everywhere else, and here there's such a crowd… Some are howling, some are singing, some are walking around the classroom. He didn't understand what was happening at first.
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Oleneva Marina
It took my son half a year to adjust to first grade, and he only resigned himself to his fate near the end of the third quarter. He even cried in the mornings, he had a nervous breakdown. Give him time.
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Anyuta
Alesya My son with Asperger's has the exact same issues.
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MARGARITA
Oh, my daughter had meltdowns too. As soon as something doesn't work, she starts crying. Just keep supporting her, praising her, and helping her.
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Ekaterina Shipova
Give magnesium 2 hours before bedtime
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irishka makarova
Did you have classes at the kindergarten before school? Did you study at home?
I'm home with my daughters. In the summer, I specifically had one practice and the other study.
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Evgeniya Ivanova
Strict routine, take magnesium B6, minimize extra activities and clubs, walk more, and put away gadgets
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FoXy
FoXy Maybe it's their age, and they're just not used to school yet. We saw the neurologist for a routine check-up before school, and everything was fine.
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Olga
MARGARITA Evenings are quite the adventure with him lately! Yesterday, he was screaming that he wouldn't film this video, which only required him to say two lines for a congratulatory message. I did my best to encourage and support him. On Wednesday, he threw a tantrum while we were playing a game as a trio because he lost and started yelling... Evenings are really intense with him right now.
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Olga
Ekaterina Shipova I don't know the dosage yet and won't give it without a doctor's advice, maybe they'll prescribe something else
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MARGARITA
MARGARITA Hugs.
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Olga
Alesya I don't know, I guess we saw a psychiatrist on my own initiative. I went by myself, without any referrals. I had some concerns, and we were just checking things because he attended a speech therapy group. He had speech issues, and we wanted to make sure there were no problems. They said everything was great, he even passed tests without any issues and his IQ was noted as above average. I don't know, I'll go back to the neurologist with my concerns and see if she has any suggestions.
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Olga
Oleneva Marina Today he whined a little, like he didn't want to go, but a stoic man tear rolled down, he got dressed, and was already happily jumping to school.
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Olga
irishka makarova All summer long, he was like a carefree dragonfly, just playing and enjoying life. No kindergarten, no classes, just swimming and gym. That was it! He was having a blast. I intentionally gave him three months of complete relaxation because he'd been working so hard for two years. He went to kindergarten until noon, then had classes and preparation until evening. He attended programs at different centers and was a preschooler at a school. He did homework, read, and studied. Basically, he went into school with a solid foundation of knowledge and understanding of what school is about. So, in that sense, I gave him both the knowledge and the understanding of school. He started getting knowledge at a private center when he was 5, and then at 6, I sent him to school so he could get used to it, understand it, and learn the school rules.
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Olga
Evgeniya Ivanova The only extra activities are, let's say, physical education twice a week. Walks are a problem, only on weekends. We need to get back to doing them on weekdays. We're trying to get a handle on gadget use, yes.
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Olga
MARGARITA We'll probably go for walks in the evenings. That's a great idea you suggested, spending an hour in the park every two or three days.
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Olga
FoXy We were also scheduled for a check-up, but there were complaints then, and there weren't any then. He's been like this for about a week and a half.
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MARGARITA
MARGARITA Yes, that's all correct
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Evgeniya Ivanova
Evgeniya Ivanova Give it time, everything will fall into place.
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Anyuta
Alesya Yes, high IQ is characteristic of Asperger's syndrome. We went through all of that too. I have a smart boy, he reads brilliantly, writes, studies English, everything comes easily to him. But the problems are specifically with socialization. He's very uncomfortable in large groups and where it's noisy. He's afraid to ask questions or make requests. He gets tired very quickly. If something doesn't turn out perfectly, he has a meltdown. I could go on and on, really. He's been working with a speech therapist, psychologist, and special education teacher for a long time and has compensated very well. People on the outside don't see anything strange about him at all and are veeery surprised when they find out he's on disability (psychiatric). This syndrome is insidious; it's hard to detect. We struggled for almost 3 years, seeing tons of doctors to get the right diagnosis. Please don't think I'm saying it's the same for you. I just noticed the symptoms are similar. And he's starting school next year, I'm very worried.😟
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Volkova Mariya
FoXy Could you please tell me which magnesium supplement you gave your child?
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FoXy
FoXy I bought the last one like this, and I think the liquid form is better.

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