Everything is driving me crazy. My daughter is 8 years old. She doesn't want to help with anything,…

Everything is driving me crazy. My daughter is 8 years old. She doesn't want to help with anything, doesn't clean up after herself. You can't get her to clean up after herself for anything. If you scold her, she might clean up, but the next time it's like it was before. She comes home and immediately throws everything on the bed, drops things as she walks. It's just awful, impossible to teach her anything. Brushing teeth, washing her face – it's a scandal. She doesn't want to do anything, she has no self-control. We bought a new phone, and while I was figuring out how to limit her screen time for a week, she was on her phone for 5 hours a day. Every day I scolded her, told her she needed to do her homework, but she did nothing. My husband and I took turns coming home from work, we couldn't leave her without the phone. She lied constantly, said she was doing her homework, but in the end, she did nothing, just sat down and went back to her phone, apparently. Something terrible is happening. My nerves are shot. I feel like I hate everything. Every day is a scandal and yelling, she has no understanding. Today she says – are you going to beat me? I say – are we beating you? She says – no. She just deliberately says all sorts of nonsense. God, I really want to just walk up and smack her, I have no strength left. And this PMS is just making my nerves even more frayed.