Girls, thank you so much! Thank you to everyone who wrote – to those who truly empathized, those who…

Girls, thank you so much! Thank you to everyone who wrote – to those who truly empathized, those who came to lecture me, those who have doubts, and those who wanted to stir the pot. And thanks to those who supported me, and those who were harsh. And for the relevant answers, and for sharing your own stories, for the advice, and for the questions, and for the criticism. Thank you all. It was very helpful to me. Because even the most biting remarks (except for insults) gave me a new perspective on the situation. They made me snap out of it and think about more than just myself. Some questions made me think and realize that my husband is actually also worried (even though he's quiet) and trying to compensate for this situation in his own way. I hadn't realized that he's been working like a robot without days off or vacation since then, to this day. He doesn't refuse any orders – he can complete several in a single day. And here I am, blaming him and feeling resentful. And I also remembered how much he supported me during difficult times, when someone else might have run away from a partner who wasn't even his wife. He might have gone back to his mom and left me to deal with everything that fell on me. He'd pay minimal child support and wouldn't bother with me – an old, sick wreck. He's not obligated, we're practically strangers. But he stayed, in a city that was foreign to him and without prospects. He left his friends, his job, his familiar Moscow, where he'd lived for over 20 years, and came to us. And he calls my parents 'mom' and 'dad', even though he doesn't have that stamp in his passport. And he's been doing this for 12 years now. Thank you to all of you who supported not only me, but him too, who suggested being gentler with him. I confess, I still held resentment not only towards that woman, but also towards him, seeing him not just as a sucker, but as a weakling, because he doesn't want to fight this woman in court. Your stories and opinions showed me that this is a complex, expensive, and almost hopeless endeavor. And he chose the path of working instead of traveling to another region to chase debts. This doesn't mean I won't do anything – I'll consult with lawyers, think about it, and then decide. But the resentment towards my husband has lessened a bit. It's eased up a little. God be her judge; since she left the children without a vacation, she'll get what she deserves. Thank you, girls. Peace and love to all.