I'm reading here and I see that many people just can't stand tantrums. This applies to me too. There…

I'm reading here and I see that many people just can't stand tantrums. This applies to me too. There are moments when you want to yell louder than the child, run to another room, hide under the covers, and never come out. Sound familiar? Sometimes we, I personally, yell and scold to make the child stop. Sometimes we even punish them for it. And now... Let's remember, although surely not everyone experienced this in childhood. Remember how we felt when we lost sight of our mom: in the store, on the platform, during a walk in the park, or when she just went to the store and the waiting time seemed to drag on forever! Remember? Did you feel it? What were those feelings? It felt like everything inside contracted into one tiny spot, your legs turned to jelly, your thoughts were chaotic, it seemed like time stood still and five minutes turned into long hours! And now... Think about what a child feels when they cry? We often think it's naughtiness, some kind of harsh manipulation. But in reality? The child is experiencing something that is mentally and physically unbearable for them! Something is wrong inside them, something is so wrong that it's incomprehensible, it's scary, and they can't cope! There's a feeling of helplessness inside, and their brain is in "danger" mode! After all, often the child fears that they won't be understood right now and will be punished for feeling unwell! But sometimes I think, have many of us grown up ourselves? Were we taught to recognize our feelings and process them correctly? Judging by the number of appointments with psychotherapists, psychologists, and the consumption of antidepressants – no! I'm scared for my children's future! Because I'm already too late with many things in their upbringing. I spent too long putting myself back together, learning to live, to see and notice my own feelings!