There's going to be a lot of text, I urgently need to vent. 8 months ago, my mom had a heart attack…

There's going to be a lot of text, I urgently need to vent. 8 months ago, my mom had a heart attack and barely survived. My mom and I have always been very close, like best friends: we called each other every day, and she visited us almost every weekend. Naturally, after she was discharged, we took her in to live with us, and rented out her apartment (the tenants send money to her card). We have a big house, so we gave her her own room and set it up nicely. At first, it was very hard for her; she couldn't walk, was short of breath, and ate almost nothing. I took care of her, fed her, bathed her, cleaned her up, did her laundry, took her to doctors, etc. Essentially, she was like my fourth child – dependent and sick. After six months, she fully recovered; she can walk, eat, and everything is okay. But there's one BUT – she continues to act as if she's disabled and can't do anything. Meaning, I still take care of her completely. And you know, maybe it's the hormones, or maybe something else, but it's started to really irritate me. I'm pregnant right now, and it's already difficult for me to manage the household: three kids and a completely "healthy" mother! I have an older sister, and she quickly opted out of caring for Mom: she only had Mom stay with her twice for 5 days and then promptly returned her. Now my sister is on vacation and told me she doesn't want to have Mom stay with her because she wants to relax at home with her husband... what the f***? And I don't want to have some time alone with my husband and kids after 8 months? Even before her illness, my mom was very lazy, very much so... she could go two weeks without washing the floors, blaming it on being tired from work. After my dad died, she practically stopped cooking. For her, it was normal to boil two potatoes for dinner and eat them with pickles – meaning, no proper nutrition was even considered. And by the way, she has diabetes, high blood pressure, no gallbladder, and a bunch of other health issues. With me, she eats like she's at a restaurant; I cook something fresh every day, separate breakfast and lunch/dinner. Meanwhile, Mom lies on the couch and watches TV. 🤦️ And that's how it is all day... she wakes up around 10-11 AM, has breakfast, and goes back to lie down. All the while, she's groaning and sighing as if she's extremely tired. Just the other day, something outrageous happened that even made me cry: I was cooking soup and needed to strain the broth. At that moment, the pot slipped out of my hands, and boiling broth went everywhere 🫣 I rushed to the bathroom to take off my scalded robe; I have a burn on my stomach, the kitchen is covered in greasy broth, the floor, everything around (and I had just cleaned and polished the kitchen to a shine). And you know what my mom did? She asked what happened and if I got burned. I said, "Of course, I got burned, boiling water got on my stomach." "Okay," Mom said, and didn't even get up from the couch to help me clean it up... Crying, I started cleaning everything up, by MYSELF. After that incident, she started to really irritate me, and the resentment I feel is just indescribable.. And yesterday was just the pits... "Let's go eat something," she said. I asked, "What are we going to eat?" It was already around 8 PM. I said, "I don't want to cook anything, I'm tired... you cook, and I'll eat." To which my mom replied, "Why should I cook? I'm not the lady of the house here." "But you live here too! When I stayed with you (while our house was being built), I cooked every day, cleaned, and did laundry. Why don't you want to do anything?" She said, "You stayed with me like you were home, but I'm staying with you as a guest." I felt so hurt again that I don't even want to talk to her. This morning, I made breakfast, cleaned up, did laundry, went grocery shopping, made lunch, and retreated to my room... I'm just lying here alone, thinking, "Am I a bad daughter? Don't I deserve at least some help? Doesn't my own mother feel sorry for me and have no shame?" I realized a long time ago that parents and children should live separately... Honestly, I'm very upset and very tired(((( 😢