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Yesterday, this is what happened: during the last lesson, the teacher told my son to gather his things and go home. She explained that he cannot miss five more lessons and suggested transferring him to homeschooling. He really can't learn in class: he gets distracted and distracts others. According to her, this will be better. She will wait until the end of September for my decision. On October 30, we will submit documents for TPMPK, and then we will wait for the commission. Tears are welling up in my eyes.
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Liberte Inga
You'll go through the committee, and afterward you'll decide for yourselves. A teacher can't force you.
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Regina
It's understandable that the teacher can't constantly calm your son. Does he go to any sports activities?
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Yuliya
Tears are welling up, and so what?
We need to address the problem, not shed tears.
Yes, this can happen.
But other children shouldn't have to suffer because of your child.
Please transfer your child to a specialized class, where they will receive more attention, as classes there are smaller.
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Anastasiya
Honestly, it would have been better if your approach toward your child involved consistent parenting and defending his interests with regard to the school, rather than tears and theatrics. The teacher should have been informed that you cannot send the child anywhere, and that his dignity should not be humiliated. But for some reason you only know how to whine and snap here.
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liliya kirasirova
Wow.
And before that, how did the previous year go for them? Or what did they say in kindergarten?
Although if you're waiting for PMPK, that probably means not everything is okay.
I’d base my view on the child; keeping them at home would be even worse.
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BElKa
This isn't for the teacher to decide, and she had no right to send him home.
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Viktoriya
Is he already in the second grade?
We had two kids moved to homeschooling because of behavior. What should we do if it doesn’t help anyone?
This isn’t a tragedy—it's just a situation like this.
In time, he will learn to control himself, and you’ll be able to send him back to regular school.
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Natalya
The entire class shouldn't have to suffer because of your child.
Please look into specialized classes or consider homeschooling.
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Gorb Anya
Why cry about it? The commission will show everything. If all is well, she will sail right through it.
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sofia namgaladze
Feeling overwhelmed, tears come to your eyes; you could sit and cry, but you could also go to the principal right now and ask: on what basis does a teacher decide who goes home and who doesn't?
In our schools, inclusion is the norm—let them resolve the issue.
And, God forbid, your son doesn't make it home after she dismisses the class; she had no right to remove a child from class.
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Anzhelika
Thank God we sent him home from class because he was not contributing to learning. The whole class suffered and was punished because of one troublemaker. Please go through the proper evaluation by a commission and a psychiatrist. There is nothing to cry about — it's time to pull yourself and your son together. What will you do when he is 15? He could become unmanageable and get into trouble somewhere else.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Liberte Inga So she told me, 'I'm waiting until the end of the month.' Today I'll stop by the neurologist and ask for a note so that he studies four lessons instead of five.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Regina No, he doesn't walk. There was a time when he attended treatment for a couple of months, but it didn’t help, and he wasn’t tired at all. And the neurologist later forbade it.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
liliya kirasirova He has ADHD. His speech-language pathologist has diagnosed him with dysgraphia and referred him to the TPMPK (Therapeutic-Psychological-Medical-Pedagogical Commission).
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
BElKa Yes?
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Gorb Anya I felt sorry for my son and hurt for him, because he's this way.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
sofia namgaladze She called and asked whether anyone would be meeting him.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Anzhelika I feel sorry for my son, and it's upsetting to think that he's like this...
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Liberte Inga
Liberte Inga And by the end of the month, she won't do anything.
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Anzhelika
Anzhelika I understand you, and I’m here with you. A formal assessment isn’t ordered without a reason, so there’s a concern that needs addressing. If we don’t work on it, things will grow bigger and harder—puberty is starting. My older son is usually very even-tempered, and he’s already navigating this transition at age 14. It may feel overwhelming, but you’ll want to regain your own balance first and do everything you can to help your son adapt to living and studying in society.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Anzhelika The speech therapist recommended forming a committee.
ADHD is one of the disorders.
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sofia namgaladze
sofia namgaladze That's exactly how you should have told her everything.
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BElKa
BElKa Of course. The committee's role is purely advisory, and the parents make the final decision.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
BElKa I understood.
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Anzhelika
Anzhelika A specialist will determine whether our son is simply fooling around or truly needs help, which is why we referred him.
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Yuliya
BElKa These days, it's all too easy to forget about others.
But isn't it hard to think about your own child as well?
After all, it's hard for them, too.
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Aleksandra Melnichenko
Anzhelika Yes, but she wants him to study individually rather than in a class. She says she can't... but isn't that basically no interaction even during breaks?
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Anzhelika
Anzhelika After the panel's assessment, what outcome will they announce—regular schooling or remediation? If the regular path goes to the principal and the child is moved to another grade level simply because the teacher can't cope, then the child will end up bearing all the blame for their knowledge.
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Rozaliya
Anastasiya By the way, yes.
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Mariya
Anzhelika Are there clubs she could join? Should we enroll her in swimming, wrestling, or art class? She’ll surely make some friends there.
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BElKa
BElKa We don't know all the circumstances. It's not up to us to judge or decide.
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Regina
Regina We need to help our son discover his hobbies.
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