I was told that my man's parents and relatives are nobody to me. What are your relatives to you? Wha…

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I was told that my man's parents and relatives are nobody to me. What are your relatives to you? What are all these formalities? What nonsense is this? Do I need to adopt them or something?
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Olga
They're just the people who gave birth to my husband, and that's it. I don't have any feelings or emotions towards them. My husband barely talks to them, and honestly, they're not great people either.
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Kristina
We have a huge clan of kindred spirits... they and us, we're a gang
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Mika
Kristina He has a lot of relatives too.
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evgeniya
You share blood with your own relatives. As for your husband's relatives… well, I don't know 😉
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Mika
But we're a family, not just roommates.
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Marishka
Are you married?
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Elena
My husband's family became my own family on our wedding day 😉
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Mika
For me, family is defined by love and care, not a piece of paper, so my relatives are my family. But you're clinging so desperately to the word 'official' right now that I'm actually worried about your relationship. Is everything okay with you?
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Mika
Thanks for the free psychoanalysis of my family
But they are my family
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Olga
Are you married or just living together?
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Mika
And why do you ask? Are you collecting statistics for the tax office?
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Marina
It's obvious they aren't married. That's why she's trying so hard – saying 'husband' is a bad word, the wedding ring is nothing, and so on.
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Marishka
More than enough, thank you. No need for you to worry, sis 😁
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Mika
A wedding ring is just like any other ring, nothing mystical about it.
Some people just don't like the word itself.
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Yuliya Glazyrina
Your husband isn't related to you by blood. And neither are his relatives. But your husband's relatives are definitely related to your children.
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Olga
When a man gets married, he takes responsibility for his woman. If they're just living together, he can basically do whatever he wants. But it's everyone's choice.
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Mika
Yuliya Glazyrina There are concepts of "native" and "close"
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Mika
How does this concern me?
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Yuliya Glazyrina
Yuliya Glazyrina There's a concept of relatives and non-relatives. You can call anyone 'family,' like your husband, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, etc. But they aren't technically related to you. And then there are close ones, like a close friend, a friend...
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Olchik
Of course, they aren't my relatives, but we consider ourselves family.
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Olesya
No, my family are the people closest to me. I grew up with them, I've known them my whole life, I love them and they love me. They're an important part of my life. My husband's relatives are strangers to me. It just so happens that they're dear to my husband, so I treat them with respect and tolerate their quirks, but there's no love or friendship between us. Maybe there are wonderful families out there where in-laws are like second parents, but that didn't happen for us. I see my mother-in-law maybe 3-4 times a year for half an hour. I talk to my hairdresser more often than I do with her, so naturally, she's a stranger to me.
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Tatyana
You and your husband aren't relatives...
Relatives are those connected by blood.
You and your husband are a family...
Family is a legally recognized relationship through marriage.
But a grandmother/mother/children or grandmother/father/children are relatives.
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Yuliya
And sometimes, your mother-in-law can feel closer than your own mom. It really depends on your relationship.
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Marina
No. Normal people don't get worked up about every little word.
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Mika
Everyone has things they don't like.
That's why the Russian language is so rich; you can use different words. If, of course, you have the outlook, vocabulary, and brain to do so!
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Elena
😂 There are so many stories about irresponsible husbands who drag you down. It's entirely about the person and their intentions.
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Marina
Exactly—different! And you're all hung up on "my man")))
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Mika
Tatyana I know and understand that.
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Tatyana
Tatyana So what's the question then?
I'm close with my in-laws (I call them Mom/Dad)... but... they aren't my relatives)))
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