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The doctor ordered an EKG. If everything is okay there, we'll try taking a neuroleptic and Attarax t…

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The doctor ordered an EKG. If everything is okay there, we'll try taking a neuroleptic and Attarax together during the break. The doctor herself isn't too keen on this plan, though. The appointment lasted 40 minutes. The problem is the school environment – her nervous system can't handle it, which causes anxiety (Attarax intake intensifies it). The solution is simply to remove her from the situation, meaning to leave the school. But my daughter is absolutely against it.
I was on a call, and instead of hearing the other person speak, I heard some kind of mush – I couldn…
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Tatyana
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I really don't understand what you're writing. You seem to have hearing problems, but you're writing that your daughter is against leaving school
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October 19, 2026, 8:30 AM
Viktoriya
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I don't think it's up to the daughter to decide. Who's the adult here, anyway?
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October 19, 2026, 8:39 AM
Katerina
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Quitting school altogether isn't an option. This isn't a game, it's education 🤷 homeschooling a kid with ADHD is unrealistic.
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October 19, 2026, 8:39 AM
Yuliya
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Tatyana My daughter is against it, she said she doesn't want to study at home, nothing is clear or easy for her, she wants to go to school. She's having a really hard time with remote learning days, and they're completely useless for gaining knowledge.
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October 19, 2026, 8:39 AM
Yuliya
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Katerina You know, if she had said, 'I want to study at home, it's easier for me, school is hard for me, everything there stresses me out,' I would have organized homeschooling. But for her, studying at home is like a punishment. I talked to her, explained everything. She doesn't even want to hear about it. She categorically says she won't study at home. And I believe her because I see what happens during remote learning days. She constantly needs external supervision. And it needs to be a system, not her mom. Otherwise, I'll just become enemy number one. She also said she needs to work with a psychologist, constantly.
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October 19, 2026, 8:57 AM
Viktoriya
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Viktoriya And that's exactly what I'm saying. My daughter rules!
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October 19, 2026, 9:02 AM
Katerina
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Katerina Mine is the same way. He can't study productively at home; he needs a change of pace, interaction with others, and constant supervision because his self-discipline is still weak, even though he's very close to the norm 🤷. A private school, a regular one, not online, would be the only option, but it's essentially the same thing. Your neurologist's advice is nonsense.
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October 19, 2026, 9:02 AM
Elena
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If you're doing it at home, you have to get involved yourself, otherwise you'll both go crazy…
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October 19, 2026, 9:15 AM
Yuliya
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Katerina She didn't advise leaving school, I'm just inferring from her words that we should eliminate situations where if there's anxiety at school, then she needs to leave school. Psychologists always favor the collective. She won't study at home; there's no motivation, no interest, no competitive element. Sitting in front of a computer for a long time to gain knowledge requires focus, which she lacks. Midway through a lesson, she'll go pet the cat or play with a toy. This means I have to sit with her during all online lessons and supervise. Even when she's doing presentations, I have to sit and monitor the process. She has enough knowledge to do it herself, but if I'm not sitting next to her, she'll do anything else, like build a house out of erasers, instead of the presentation; she's constantly distracted. And she can't be without people. We went on vacation, and she immediately found "friends" there and hung out with them the whole time. Her extracurriculars also need to be group-based; she doesn't need them if she's alone with a teacher. She got overstimulated on vacation anyway due to all the emotions.
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October 19, 2026, 9:18 AM
Yuliya
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Elena I'm already home, but we have much better relations when I'm at work. She wants more personal space now, whereas before she always wanted to be with me. Now she spends hours alone in her room, drawing, reading, or chatting with friends. But she still tells me everything and shares her feelings and worries. Usually, it's right after school or definitely before bed. They've become rituals.
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October 19, 2026, 9:24 AM
Katerina
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Katerina I think she wasn't talking about attending school in general, but about more specific situations that cause anxiety. Like the fear of getting a bad grade, or too much workload, when after school there are still 2-3 clubs and no time even for homework…
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October 19, 2026, 9:27 AM
Yuliya
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Katerina Yeah, maybe my brain just jumps to conclusions. That's exactly it – these fears of making a mistake, getting a bad grade, if the teacher makes a comment, any criticism (I take it personally right away), difficult relationships with some kids. It's just all hard for her. Now that I've written it all out, I realize she needs to work with a psychologist, at least every two weeks, so they can assess certain things and help her let go of situations, get an outside perspective, so to speak.
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October 19, 2026, 9:36 AM
Yuliya
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My daughter has never been referred to the PMPK commission. At the center where the commission is held, she attended classes, including with specialists who are part of this commission. She doesn't even have indications for the PMPK. She studies almost perfectly, has had no speech problems for a long time, and has mild dysgraphia and dyslexia. She doesn't show aggression towards others. She's only lagging in emotional intelligence, interests, thinking, games, and communication, at the level of a 7-8 year old. However, her daily living skills are normal.
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October 19, 2026, 10:24 AM
anzhelika
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Mine is also doing well in school and isn't aggressive. But you know best.
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October 19, 2026, 10:30 AM
Yuliya
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And from what age is it individual? I'm just curious about the basis for individual learning? like, without a diagnosis, she herself experiences discomfort in a group and wanted another option, or she wanted to study at school, but you took her and transferred her to individual? How noticeable are her peculiarities? and how much did they interfere?
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October 19, 2026, 11:09 AM

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