irina kalashnikova

1 child

It's been a while since we've had meltdowns over homework, but yesterday was a total disaster. The n…

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It's been a while since we've had meltdowns over homework, but yesterday was a total disaster. The neuropsychologist gave him a timed task: redraw as many shapes as possible in two minutes. There are three rows – an oval, a triangle, and a trapezoid. He didn't even finish four shapes before bursting into tears, followed by a full-blown tantrum. We couldn't calm him down or explain that it's okay, that he didn't finish, and the most important thing is to look at his results. There's also a second row with more complex drawings, crosses and stars, and he can't draw those at all. I dread to think what this will lead to. I've written to her about it, of course, hoping she might reconsider the homework, at least without the time limit. Playing with him isn't easy either. If he sees he's losing, he starts cheating, ruins the game by shuffling the cards, or just throws a tearful fit. Honestly, I'm really worried about how he'll cope at school, where there are also tests: if you don't finish on time, you hand in what you've done. How can I teach my child that it's important to know how to lose? I haven't been able to do it in six years.

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Anastasiya

4 children

My youngest used to have meltdowns until about age 8. Then they learned how to cope with losing. One way or another, someone always loses, and they saw how others reacted to losing.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

Mama♡ocharovatelnoy dochki♡

2 children

We're going through the same thing..

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

Ugnenko Anna

1 child

age range. It passes. Although there are adults who get furious from losing 🤷. But usually, it passes by age 8. Here, you just have to wait, train, and discuss. Yes, you lost. What could you have done to win? But not in the heat of the moment. Later, about 2 hours later, before bedtime. Choose board games for now that don't involve personal loss. Like 'The Wolf is Coming'. There, everyone loses together.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

yankovskaya yuliya

3 children

My youngest is like that. I call her my "aggressive leader." It's easier now; she tries not to show her disappointment at not being first in things to others, but she doesn't always succeed. A psychologist really helped – she did "sand fairy" (sand therapy), fairytale therapy, and had individual sessions starting at age 5. She'll still have storms, it's inevitable with her personality, but she needs to be taught self-control techniques. A good psychologist can handle this. Neuropsychology works a bit differently, building neural connections; it's a slightly different field.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

Tanya

2 children

At first, they didn't know how to lose at all. We've been playing games with rules since they were about 3-4 years old. By 5-6, they understood that losing wasn't a big deal. Well, they might get upset (especially my daughter. She's very emotional)

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

Abramova Yuliya

1 child

Hates losing and reacts in different ways. Sometimes they stop playing, get angry, or feel offended. Other times, they react normally. I think it depends on their mood. We explain to them that there's nothing terrible about losing, etc.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:09 AM

Mariya

1 child

She doesn't care if she lost, she just lost. She doesn't take things like that seriously.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:15 AM

Valyushka

1 child

My son used to react so much, like he lost a million dollars. Then he understood

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November 14, 2026 at 9:15 AM

Olga Tihonova

2 children

My son used to do that too, and we often play board games. He got used to it later and stopped having meltdowns, probably around age 7. Now he reacts calmly. We also always had 3 or 4 players from the start, and one of them was his sister. I think it was easier for him to handle his emotions when she lost because she's also a child, and he saw how she reacted.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:27 AM

Lolo

1 child

Ours throws tantrums too. Even at the start of a game, if they see that I or Dad are ahead, they immediately freak out. I've explained many times that losing isn't scary, that it's not like they'll always win everything, and that friends won't play with them if they react like this, but it's useless. Sometimes they seem to react calmly, but other times they really throw a tantrum, especially if they've lost 2-3 times in a row.

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November 14, 2026 at 9:36 AM

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